What is a “Hot Wife?”
The term hot wife is often used to describe a happily married woman who enjoys intimate relations with other men, with her loving husband’s full and genuine support, but where he typically agrees to be completely monogamous with his wife. Both spouses derive satisfaction from the wife’s extramarital pleasures. The husband is not necessarily submissive, although the couple may role-play that the wife relentlessly flaunts her “infidelity” in front of her husband.
It is understandable that this arrangement can appeal to women with a polygamous nature, but it is far from obvious why so many husbands are genuinely into this seemingly unfair arrangement. The husband is turned on by his wife’s adultery, whether this happens as part of a heterosexual threesome where she first has sex with her lover and then her husband, or if the husband is not present during her adventure, waits impatiently for his wife to come home from her date so that he can make love to her. You are forgiven if you wrongly believe that the husband is hoping for his wife to reaffirm to him that only he can truly satisfy her sexually. No, her husband gets more excited the more the wife enjoys her extramarital lovers! When the hot wife is back in her husband’s arms, she will often graphically describe the intensity of the orgasms she has just experienced with another man or men.
The wife’s sexual pleasure should not be confused with her romantic feelings - she is only in love with her husband. To minimize the risk that she develops a romantic interest in a lover, the couple has typically agreed to certain rules so that she for example only sees the same lover a few times, that there is a significant age difference, and that her lovers never are part of the couple’s regular social, professional or family circles.
Hot wife relationships are often first suggested by the husband who has fantasized about, if he ever gets enough courage to overcome his embarrassment and bring it up with his wife. The wife tends at best to react with complete amazement, at worst with severe hostility - even if she herself has fantasized about being with other men. She does so for good reasons: whilst there are common biological reasons for why the husband can be excited by his wife’s adultery, the reverse is rarely true and she therefore suspects that her husband has some other sinister reason for asking. Does he feel guilt because he has cheated on her? Doesn’t he love her anymore? Is he bisexual? Is he suggesting this as a first step to later justify that he should have the right to be with other women? Little does she know that the husband’s thought of his own wife having sex with another man tends to rank as the second or third most preferred fantasy amongst married men, and it increases with how long the couple has been married.
It is one of life’s ironies that men with hotwives often become very committed to themselves being faithful the more promiscuous their wives are. The husband typically finds his wife sexier than ever before - even when they first met - and the excitement of competing for his own wife highly erotic and exciting. There are accounts from wives that upon becoming hotwives, not only did they experience great sex and fun, but their husbands became more loving and romantic, bought them more gifts and vacations and started to take a greater interest in household duties - classical actions by a man seeking to gain a lady’s affection. Few wives can even in the slightest imagine that her no-nonsense husband who most definitely wears the pants in the house, possibly could be the type who would greet her with a passionate kiss in the early morning as she comes back to a picked-up house, knowing full well that his wife has just spent hours in bed being pleasured by one of her lovers! Now, before too many wives get their hopes up - only a minority of husbands - although a sizeable minority - would react in this way. And most husbands even in this minority will react with traditional jealous rage if he catches his wife cheating on him and where no hot wife arrangement has been discussed and agreed to in advance. The husband’s complete trust in his wife is fundamental for him to accept a hot wife arrangement.
I understand what and why a husband would get sexually excited watching his wife have sex with other men. I am one of thies men. However my wife would not go along with me. I have asked her to do this for me. I’d love to see her with one or more men. To see the delight and pleasure she would receive from the experience. She refused to, stating that I was the only man she wants. Most men would get angry and jelious if their wife had sex with other men, mine won’t and I want her to. She is a good woman and i don’t push it. I have been involved with other mens wifes when they watched or joined in, in the sex. I love it and would like to find others who injoy it too
very good explanation of what a hotwife is
Yes,an excellent explanation. It would appear that indeed a small minority would be involved in this lifestyle. Just like how a wife would be turned on by seeing her husband fuck other women would be few and far between. If the husband has no jealousy,i hope the wife wouldn’t but from what i’ve read thats not the case. Women are more jealous, even in the hotwifing lifestyle,if the man wanted to fuck other women because when the hotwife fantasy is initially brought up she thinks its an excuse for him to have other woman. I guess thats why the spouse with the fantasy of his/her partner is the one who brings it up.
With all the fucking the hotwife does, i hope the husband wouldn’t be short changed because the wife would be to tired,to sore or prefer to relish in the moments of another lover.I think when it gets to that point and she isn’t giddy when seeing her husband.then changes would have to be made. All this is the husbands’ fantasy,although when the wife feels comfortable she has to enjoy it more than the husband. After all,she’s getting the sex. Men have more of a voyeuristic nature than women,so maybe thats why this type of lifestyle has caught on.
The unfair comparision seems to fit the bill when
[quote] a happily married woman who enjoys intimate relations with other men, with her loving husband’s full and genuine support, but where he typically agrees to be completely monogamous with his wife.[/quote]
It would seem a fully sexual functioning man who has a high sex drive would get less of his wife’s attention by doing this and get frustrated. She would be giving attention to others while he would sit idly by waiting for her. Participating in the action would be a more rational course of action,imo. Those who wait around for their hotwife to come home after a few hours or a day or a weekend i hope actually don’t sit around or lie around waiting. She’s having fun why can’t you at least go do routine things to soothe the anguish lol.
[quote] There are accounts from wives that upon becoming hotwives, not only did they experience great sex and fun, but their husbands became more loving and romantic, bought them more gifts and vacations and started to take a greater interest in household duties - classical actions by a man seeking to gain a lady’s affection [/quote]
I would hope the wives would be more affectionate with sexual aggression towards him.I don’t know about you but i would want to feel like i’m first and most important. The same as the wives do.Thats why communication is a neccissity.
[quote] No, her husband gets more excited the more the wife enjoys her extramarital lovers! [/quote]
There will always be a man who can plesase and make a woman climax better and even more. Just like there will always be a woman who gives better oral sex and fucks better.The “swinging” lifestyle would make more sense,at least to me. Being monogamous with her romantically yes,however sexually whats good for the goose is good for the gander. I guess thats why my line of thinking i have no desire for a hotwife lol.
I am a hot wife and I agree upon husband requests, He wants me to cuckold him and to have sex with other man. I admit it is exciting and naughty, only as long my hubby enjoys it.
Nice definition of Hot Wife.
Love,
Layla.
Nice description, recently found I enjoy my ‘hot wife’ it is a strange but erotic feeling knowing she is pleasuring other men the satisfaction I get from her enjoyment is overwhelming.
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This is by far the best definition of a “hotwife” I think I’ve ever run across. My husband began sharing his fantasies involving me and other men about ten years ago, and I must admit I was at first taken a bit a back by it. I had to agree with him that I found the thought of it exciting but that was about as far as it went. About two years ago, being still quite attractive and getting hit on regularly from guys even ‘much’ younger, and with my husband still sharing his ‘fantasies’ and making them even ‘hotter’ involving me with other guys that he knew I was attracted to and especially during ’sex’, I began to rethink it all, and before long I was finding myself thinking about it more and more(’every day’). After a rather long discussion one night over dinner we both agreed to the arrangement that I could have all the sexual freedom I pleased, but he would remain totally monogamous. I have to say our sex life now as well as our marriage is better than ever. He loves having me as not only his ‘hot’ wife, but also his ‘hotwife’, as I know now there is quite a ‘difference’, and he says he’s happy now to have ‘both’. He’s much more attentive and romantic, and loves buying me sexy things to wear for my hot dates with other men. He also ‘loves’ me sharing all the ‘details’. I agree that it is exciting because he’s totally into it and I don’t have to feel any guilt or regretful feelings. He loves the fact that I’m now always hot and turned on just with the ‘possibilities’, even if it’s just a trip to the grocery store in summer wearing my little cut-offs and a skimpy halter top. I know it’s certainly not for everyone, and if some of our friends and family knew about our arrangement they would ’shudder’, but as long as my husband is encouraging it I’m having fun, and probably will continue to do so!
Perfect definition. My wife does this and I love it.
I came across your website by chance researching ideas about how to format our personal website. I enjoyed and agree with most of your defintion of “Hotwife” and showed my queen and she thought so as well. We have been on and off swingers up to this point. Limited by family obligations, work schedule and alot of phonies on swingers sites. Guys that think themselves having more or being more than they actually are, as Donna puts it…. “legends in thier own minds.” Thus why we mutually decided to try creating a website to see how that works as far as getting what we/she wants. We are not the typical if there is such a thing, ‘hotwife/cuckold’ couple. Myself being nicely hung and pretty talented in bed and black. However I enjoy her taking a lover that fully able to satisfy her…something about watching her let loose with a guy that’s able to stimulate her both body and mind. Watching as she flirts, slowly allowing her wild side or HOTWIFE to come out and play. Seeing her let loose sexually seducing and being seduced by another man. There is something very powerful about witnessing this transformation that gets me extremely aroused. Her dating Solo is something were still working out, the idea doesn’t appeal to me as much as being there to watch and listen to her during the actual passion exchange. But there is something about having to wait and ponder what is happening that is a turn on also, especially if she brings home the evidence of sex.
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I am so please to have found this fantastic site. I am a macho, hetro guy who has been married for 16 years. My first feelings that I enjoyed the cuckold/hotwife scenario started many years ago, before we got married. I noticed that I was always reading storries about guys who let their wife have sex with other men.
We got married and about a year after that my wife wanted to go on holiday to Crete with a female friend. I was a little worried but decided not to be a jealous husband to I did not stand in her way. My wife is Blonde, 5′3″ with a good figure, large breats and an attractive face.
A couple of days before her trip, while she was at work, I noticed her case under the bed with some shoes beside it. I could not help but notice that she had taken some of her sexiest shoes out of the closet to pack in her case. I could not help myself and decided to take a look in her case. The top of the case was fine. She had packed the usual holiday outfits and everything seemed fine, but when I lifted some of those items out of the way my heart skipped a beat. I found her sexiest stockings, bras, thongs, short thin dresses. I did not know how to feel. I thought I should feel jealous, and in a way I did as I knew she was bound to attract other men wearing those outfits. I was about to put everything back when I noticed a make-up bag in the corner of the case so I decided to take a look inside. That is when I knew that she wanted to find sex on her holiday. Among the make-up, lipstick etc I found a box with her name on it from the pharmacy with a date only a few days old. It contained a female contraceptive cap. In an instant I became totally turned on. My wife was going on holiday with a case full of sexy shoes, undies, stocking and I knew why.
She never knew I looked in the case. I now know that she had sex with 3 guys on her holiday that year. I have hinted to her that it is one of my fantasies but she has never taken me up on it and always says that she would never try anything like that. If she only knew that I know everthing.
Looking forward to looking at your site again.
G
im glad i found this site. me and my husband of 4 years are just starting this lifestyle. i can tell you that my nature is to be totally monogamous and i expect the same from him. our sex life had always been lacking due to some of his “issues” and when he brought up the idea of me “cheating” on him i was devastated. why would he want that if he loves me so much? is he just saying this because HE wants to cheat on me and this would justify that?
until this past week he has always been kind of cold and reserved towards me sexually, but now that i have been entertaining (but not yet doing) this thing for him he is super responsive to me and very attentive… im kind of hoping i can get out of actually doing it with someone else, i cant imagine wanting anyone else, but if my husband is going to start treating me THIS good, then maybe it will be ok.
by the way, my husband is not weak or passive, he is actually quite dominant and ive always been the submissive one…
This posting does an excellent job of describing our journey. I have been serving my Wife for nearly three years, and we have talked about her cuckolding me and she has now decided to date and find someone (or more than one) to take as a lover. i am not allowed, nor do i want to, have other partners…In fact, she has hinted that if she can find a man who can satisfy her need for a long lasting large cock and a relationship she enjoys, She might not allow me to fuck her anymore, though I will still get to service her orally.
I believe this is how things should be and am a very happy man.
For more… http://wifeworshipper.blogspot.com
thanks
rb