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Craigslist: Curious About Cuckolding?

I monitor Craigslist personals pretty frequently for well-written ads by couples or single men interested in this lifestyle. They’re few and far between, believe me. I’m all for getting to the point, but most of the ads out there are not only too short, they are just mindless and unappealing.

Every now and then, a thoughtful one worthy to share with the group comes through my feed reader. Here’s one from a single man in the Chicago suburbs. Men, take note: this is a great example of how to write an ad that will get noticed. Craigslist ads expire quickly, so here’s a reprint:

Are You A Couple Curious About Cuckolding? – m4mw (Western Surburbs)
Date: 2008-06-22, 7:27AM CDT

Cuckolding is not for everyone.

But for those couples lucky enough to have a strong marriage, a desire for white-hot sexual play, and a husband who has that special gene that turns him on when his loved one is taken by another, this can be the ultimate adventure.

I am seeking such a couple to develop a cuck relationship. This happens one excruciatingly erotic step at a time, as the powerful sexual energy of cuckolding draws on the well of the mind to explode into the physical play. What all this means to the cuckold is as powerful as what is actually done by his wife.

This would involve me dating the wife, who has her pleasure at her discretion, and controls how much she tells her husband, allows him to participate, and requires him to support her. Rules can be developed, usually ones that make the cuck very aroused, and the lovers smile.

I am not seeking an invitation just to have me come over and have sex with the wife in front of the husband (although this may indeed happen in cuckolding). Often this is arranged by the husband, who is in charge, lining up a lay for the wife. That’s just swinging, which is fun, but not what I’m seeking. Cuckolding is an intense relationship adjustment between husband and wife in which she is in control and she has her pleasure with another at her whim, while controlling the husband’s pleasure with her.

As the lover, I enjoy the wife in a special way, and enjoy participating to some degree. I’m very creative and enjoy helping the wife sexually torture her husband with our relationship … torture in the good sense, of course, that he is hard, hyperventilating and in agony waiting for the chance to have some relief with her.

Experience is not necessary. Sincerity and willingness to explore safely and sanely is. As always, this must be 100 percent discreet. I very much prefer couples who are emotionally mature and have a good relationship and good personalities.

It is a given that if the husband is not a cuck, he will not be convinced to do so and this will almost never happen. The wife can be convinced to participate in time, given a stepwise development. But a cuck is almost born, not made. There are many men who secretly are deeply aroused at the thought of their wives truly enjoying another man to the exclusion of the husband’s intimate needs. As with many forms of D/s and other sexual adventures, this becomes a paradox: The prime determinant of cuckolding is the cuck, who ultimately has the least power and sometimes the greatest erotic experience. However, this is also so hot that this notice should probably also be in the m4w section as well.

If this is interesting to you, drop me a line and we’ll chat. You don’t have to be married and you don’t have to live nearby. Because this involves a great deal of verbal / relational play as well as realtime dating, this could be done at some distance.

Recommended: Hotwife Dating

Hotwife Dating

My friend Trash over at the Hot Wife Blog has started a dating portal for folks interested in meeting folks interested in meeting hotwives, cuckolds and their admirers called Hotwife Dating. I’m very excited to see where it goes.

At Hotwife Dating, you can build a profile, express the qualities and interests you’re looking for, as well as the geographical area to which you want to narrow your searching. You can post personal photos, plus rate and comment on profiles. I quickly built a profile for Allie and was impressed with what I was able to do in a short amount of time.

If you’re used to the personals sites like Adult Friendfinder or Swappernet, or even social networking sites like MySpace, then you’ll get the hang of Hotwife Dating pretty quick. Just over 200 folks have signed up so far, and I expect Trash to release more features to the growing community as it gets bigger and more popular. Please give it a look!

This is a great line

This quote stood out in a Miami Craigslist ad looking for a cuckold encounter I read today:

“…I might be the type of guy who can turn your woman into a complete whore…”

Wow. For some reason that really got my wheels turning. If you’re a couple looking in or nearby Ft. Lauderdale, you might consider replying to this guy’s ad. Check it out while you can, Craigslist ads expire after seven days or so.

Introducing Hot Wife Carol

Hot Wife Carol

I’d like to introduce a couple I had the pleasure of befriending online recently. Please meet Carol, a thirty-something hot wife from the Flint, Michigan area, and her loving cuckold husband Mike.

Carol is currently looking for new men to play with, while her husband watches. They’ve been having a lot of trouble finding prospective dates in their area–and the men that they’ve tried to meet have either 1) flaked out on them, 2) not been able to hold an intelligent conversation or 3) came across as too eager or too hyper.

As you can see in her photo, Carol has ample curves and a great set of 38-D tits. She has few limits–and her cuckold hubby is eager to watch or join in, depending on the situation.

Carol explained to me a phenomenon she hopes to avoid with her I’ve decided to coin The Zombie Factor. (Carol’s words, not mine. LOL)

Simply put, The Zombie Factor is a humorous trance-like state many of her dates have found themselves in soon after she’s met them in public for the first time, be it at a bar, restaurant, coffee shop or similar place. The Zombie Factor is typically characterized by excessive staring at a woman’s breasts and cleavage, forgetting how to talk (or only wishing to talk about sex), or seeming to be singularly focused on jumping into the sack with her as quickly as possible. You know…essentially acting as a mindless, drooling zombie. (“BRAAAAIIIINNNNSSSS…”)

Not that Carol doesn’t enjoy you staring at her ample cleavage or wanting to get her into bed. Quite the contrary. However, she’s tired of being treated as a piece of meat by mindless guys that seem to have a one-track focus. She doesn’t need to be seduced or wooed (though that would be nice). She would though like a guy that can at least carry on a decent, smart conversation, and is willing to talk about other stuff than just hotwives and cuckolds.

So…in a nutshell, that’s the Zombie Factor. I think all of us involved in a hotwife couple have experienced it before. You zombies out there (and you know who you are) now know what you need to work on. :)

If you’re in or around the Flint, Michigan area, and would be interested in meeting Carol and her cuckold Mike, please send us an email here to the blog (the address in in the left-hand sidebar), and I will pass your information on to them. She’s hoping to meet potential dates via the blog here. You know the drill though guys, act like you’ve been there. And send photos you’d share with your mom, okay? There’s a time and place for cock pictures, and the first introduction isn’t it.

If you like what you see, please say so in the comments. I’m sure that Carol could be convinced to share more pictures in the future.

Hot Wife Sara: A craigslist ad of my own

I’ve been relegated to on-my-back time (not the fun kind!) all week. This cold and flu season thing is killing me! Though I have to admit, my weakened immune system was probably the result of a post Valentine’s Day surprise. I decided to just spring for the wedge (a soft yet firm mini-ramp that makes all kinds of yummy sex positions easy, especially doggy!), and I managed to pick it up, and even keep it hidden for a day! During the hide-the-wedge day, I put up an ad on
Craigslist in the casual encounters section. Jeff and I used to LOVE CL, but we had a bad experience with this crazy, tiny-dicked guy once and it left a bad taste in Jeff’s mouth. Or was that my mouth? ;)

When it got to the part where it asked what I was seeking (a woman, a man, a transsexual, a group of women or a group of men), I decided to click on “group of men” on an impulse. I wrote a little description of myself and Jeff, wrote about what we were into, and then slapped on a couple pics of my big tits in a tank
top and my mouth wrapped around a banana. I got just over 100 replies the next time I checked. When I got to work on my inbox, there were a lot of dick pictures, as well as several with phone numbers and lengthy descriptions of how perverted they were.

I have a secret litmus test when I put out an ad like this. If there’s an eye-catching subject line, I’ll usually read the whole e-mail (instead of deleting it). This one e-mail was entitled “Worshipping Your Body.” I was piqued! The guy in the e-mail wrote about his desire to lick every inch of my body, how he had a talented tongue and a big, beer can thick cock. Where his e-mail got really interesting was when he said that he’d been in an “arrangement” before with a swinger couple, and that he found it really hot humiliating the hubby while he fucked and came in every hole. He was 21, dark complexion, 6-pack, 10 inches, and had a friend who was a tit man too if I was interested. He attached a pic of just his body, dick in hand. I knew that the wedge had found the perfect candidate!

I’m getting too hot thinking about all this! And you know I love to tease… more soon, I promise.



Craigslist: Shhhhhh – m4mw – 40

It’s been awhile since I’ve spotlighted a good Craigslist cuckold personal ad. Say what you want about Craig’s personals. Through my research (well, endless surfing), I’ve found they’re full of people that seem to be pretty serious about cuckold and hotwife encounters. Certainly, most of the m4mw ads that are on there are useless–but occasionally there’s a gem that seems to be genuine. Case in point, this ad from Craigslist Las Vegas:

Shhhhh...Craigslist m4mw cuckold ad photos

I’m a VERY experienced (15+ years) Bull who loves to play with Hotwives/cuckold couples.

I’m 40 y/o, successful, professional, attractive, well groomed, and squeaky clean and STD free Dominant MWM. I’m 6’2” 210lbs, average build with short brown hair, baby blue eyes, trimmed goatee with a neatly trimmed and VERY thick 7” cock, with shaved cum filled balls.

While I am Dominant, Aggressive and Assertive by nature in the “bedroom”, I am a complete gentleman by choice and am respectful of boundaries, feelings and desires. As an Experienced Bull involved in the Hotwife/Cuckold lifestyle for many years, unlike most of the guys you will find on Craig list/net, I REALLY understand what your looking for and know that balancing your emotions and desires is a learned art.

Most importantly, I REALLY enjoy the lifestyle and nothing turns me on more than satisfying another man’s wife/girlfriend why he watches or listens on the phone. I am definitely not looking for a relationship or to steal anyone’s women. I just love stretching/using deprived married pussies. I love turning them into my little sluts for the encounter, and making them cum harder and more than their cuckold husbands/boyfriends EVER could. I live for the way Hotwives look at and talk to/about their husbands/boyfriends while taking my thick cock, and equally love the helpless look on their husbands/boyfriends face while they jerk their inadequate cocks, so turned on from watching a REAL Man fuck their wives/girlfriends and sit in the corner jacking off and waiting to clean up like a good little boy!

Simply put, I am the real deal – An Experienced, Hot, Assertive Bull who KNOWS how to “Long Stroke’ your slutty little married pussy and give you the deep fucking your husband/boyfriend can’t, but that you so desperately crave and NEED. It’s OK, tell him how much better my thick cock is while I pound you and that for you, size and experience really DOES matter. I am bi-sexual as well and I am very open to and enjoy all of the aspects that come with the cuckolding (fluffing, clean-up, sensual humiliation), if so desired. While I say that I am open to this, it is certainly not required or expected, and all boundaries will be respected, since you two maybe somewhat new to this. Most of all I just enjoy satisfying a Hotwife while her “little” man watches/listens.

What do I expect?

I expect the cuck to surrender his manhood AND his woman to ME. I expect the cuck to worship me. If so desired, he will be my sissy. I expect him act & dress like a sissy in our presence. He will offer his wife/girlfriend to me. You may be (or may NOT be) allowed to watch or perhaps have a nice cream pie afterward. If this sounds like your thing…contact me now.

I have been following cuckold lifestyle for many years. I would very much like to find an emotionally stable/secure couple that either has experience in this lifestyle or wants to embark on this journey with me, for REAL.

I am patient, safe, sane, discrete, d/d free and sincere. You be too.

Like all Craigslist ads, this one will only be available online for a short period of time. If you’re going to be in Sin City in the near future for pleasure, this gentleman sounds like he might be worth checking into.

Craigslist: Let’s cuckold my boyfriend

I feel compelled to report on the best craigslist cuckolds personals ads out there. Craigslist really is a great resource for finding partners and encounters, but you do have to know what you’re looking for. I recommend looking for ads that are lengthy and written with a degree of literacy and creativity. Which brings me to the example I found this evening from a couple in Philadelphia. It’s written from both the perspective of Jack, the willing cuckold, and Julia, his humiliating girlfriend. Once again, I’ll remind everyone that craigslist ads are very temporary. In most major markets, craigslist personals only stay online for a week or two (though folks often run them more than once). So if this ad is of interest to you, and you’re a dominant, single male living in the Philadelpha area, then you should respond quickly. Good luck!

Let’s cuckold my boyfriend

He says:

My girlfriend is watching over me as I type this. We are a couple in our early-30s. We have had a light s/m relationship and we taking our exploration further.

We are looking for a new lover for Julie (not her real name). In this capacity as her lover, you would be the new man of the house when you are visiting our place. I would be Julie’s and your servant in a sense. To show my submissiveness to the man, I would wear panties and a skirt while you are at the house. You would be able to sleep over whenever you want, assuming Julie desires you to.

At times you will make love while I’m in the room. Other times while I’m merely in the house. Still other times you may take a hotel room or go on a vacation together. You should be comfortable in allowing me to be a fluffer, getting you ready for her, as well as cleaning you and Julie up afterwards. We would expect you to fuck me from time to time as well, again, just to demonstrate your masterly qualities and dominance over me. You should also be comfortable in spanking me if I displease you at all.

As a servant to you, I would be required to ask your permission for such things as seeing Julie naked, making love to her and even perhaps such activities as masturbating. You would be able to deny me such pleasures outright, allow me such pleasures outright, or allow them under certain conditions. For example, you could allow me to relieve my sexual tension while I go down on you. Or you could allow me to see her naked in exchange for servicing you or your friends. That will be up to your discretion.

She says:

What I’m looking for is a man who is well-hung, at least six inches. He should have a nice body. He should be a good lover. He should be under 45. Most importantly, he should be comfortable in the humiliation of Jack (not his real name). Race is not important.

One important note here. I do not intend to leave Jack. We are in love and we do still intend to get married. Our sex life is merely one aspect of our relationship. And though is unsatisfying in the act of sex, we have found a way to make our sex life work, and this is something we both want and desire at this time. Whether we will continue this after marriage is uncertain at this point. But I reserve the right to end it whenever I feel like it. (As do you of course. If you find it unfulfilling, no hard feelings. Jack is the only one who doesn’t have a vote, though I may choose to consult with him.)

That said, if this happens, it will be exciting for all three of us. I love the idea of humiliating him. I can envision the humiliating things we will make him do in private and in public. I can’t wait to go to swinger parties and have him find a suitable woman for a threesome for his girlfriend and her lover. I get a bit wet thinking of him putting on panties and a skirt as we anticipate your arrival. I get a rush when I imagine him begging you to be allowed to lick my nipple after he’s watched you make love to me.

But even more than that, I can’t wait to find a lover who will fuck me hard and long, and making me feel like a real woman. Because this will be as much about you as it will be about him. I expect Jack to get jealous. But if he says anything, I will slap him silly. And heavens know what you will do to him when I tell you. Any ideas?

He is:

Jack is 5’6″, 155 pounds, and, sadly, has a small cock, and thus his inability to satisfy me in the traditional sense. He hates the taste of semen and hates to be fucked, and that’s why I insist he will eat your come and he will be fucked, preferably by you, but we have a strap-on for this purpose, and maybe you will have friends?

She is:
Julie is 5’5″, 130. She has red hair and the most beautiful green eyes. Her breasts are a perfect B-cup and her ass is to die for. She is very cerebral, so the ideal man will be intelligent enough to keep her interest.

We say:
If this sounds interesting to you, please send photos. A pic of your package would be most appropriate of course, but also one of your body and face. Also tell us a bit about yourself and what ideas you will bring to this little relationship of ours. This is important. When we posted for a threesome earlier this year, we got a lot of short replies that didn’t tell us anything. Looks are to some degree important, because Julie is gorgeous. But since cuckolding is mostly an emotional/mental activity, we need to know you are truly able to keep this going longer than just a few encounters.

We eagerly await getting this started soon. We will provide pics in return to those who sound interesting.

Craigslist: The perfect husband

I’ve found yet another installment in my ongoing series of cuckold and hotwife related posts and personals from Craigslist. This is a particularly good one from the City of Brotherly Love, where someone has taken the time to write a great tutorial for wives interested in making their husbands cuckolds. Enjoy!

The perfect husband

Turning your husband into a cuckold can be one of the most rewarding things you ever do. A successfully cuckolded husband will be completely submissive. He will satisfy all your sexual cravings, manage all the mundane chores of your life, allow you to sleep with whomever you wish, and will willingly subject himself to any amount of humiliation you desire.

But be warned, cuckolding can also be one of the most challenging things you ever do. The process is long, complicated, energy consuming, and by no means sure of success. The strain on your marriage will be unbelievable, and it may be weeks or months before you succeed.

This document has been provided to educate women on how to begin the wonderful journey of female domination and to hopefully relieve some of the apprehension that might prevent a woman from ever trying. After reading this it will be clearer that cuckolding your husband is not as hard as it seems, and that accomplishing this feat is more possible than you thought.

The most common reason a women doesn’t cuckold her husband is that she thinks he’ll never go for it – that he’s not the type. This is such a myth that it must be disproved immediately. Many cuckolds begin as ordinary husbands. Your husband may even be as manly as men come, but don’t worry, cuckolding is often a just a matter of helping your hubby discover his submissive side. Take heart in the fact that underneath all his machoness and pride, there is a cock loving wimp that is begging you to force him to do all sorts of nasty things.

First train yourself

Think of cuckolding as an art. For the wife who decides to cuckold her husband, she must have complete mastery of certain skills. Much like a artist making a painting – she must go to school, read, and practice. So like an artist, before you ever begin training your husband, you must first train yourself. You’re about to go on an incredible journey; you want to be prepared, right?

The world of cuckolding is unlike the normal world. It has various rules and customs that are different from everyday life, of which you must be aware. You must immerse yourself in this new culture. To begin, start reading erotic stories that deal with cuckolding. Many women before you have cuckolded their husbands and recorded their experiences. Also many men have written about their decent into female domination. Learn from them. Reading stories will acquaint you to the new world of cuckolding and will prevent you from having to reinvent anything. Beyond stories, you may want to read books on female domination, and buy videos of dominatrixes humiliating men.

You must also train yourself to be sexually independent. If you want to control your husband you need to not need his penis. In the future you will need to deny your husband the pleasures of your body and this will be only possible if you are strong enough to abstain from sex. Sex between you and your hubby is probably pretty vanilla anyway if you’re thinking about cuckolding him, so it shouldn’t be too hard. Masturbate often. Splurge on vibrators, dildos, lotions, clothing, and pornography. Have fun! Visit your local sex shop and ask for ideas. You may also want to think about buying toys that you can also use on your husband once he’s properly trained. The key is whenever you really have the urge for a fucking, train yourself to seek satisfaction from a source other than your husband, i.e. when you’re horny, take out your vibrator.

A good way to help your training along is to change your appearance. Make it your goal to become a hotwife. The prime focus of a hotwife is expressing her sexuality in all manners, from the type of shoes she wears to the way she shaves her pussy. A hotwife wears tight fitting clothes as much as she can. She wears short skirts, perfume, and high-heels all the time. She does her hair and wears makeup daily. At night she wears sexy lingerie. She goes to the gym often. When she goes to the grocery store she doesn’t wear underwear. If you start doing thing like these, not only will you be sending a signal to your husband that you’ve changed, but you’ll be sending a signal to yourself. Because you look like a hotwife, you’ll think you’re a hotwife, and then you’ll be a hotwife! The advantages to being a hotwife are numerous. You’re husband will lust for you much more, even if he doesn’t show it, other men will croon over you (this will increase your confidence), and your sexual energy will increase, all of which you can channel into power.

Also feel free to start flirting. It’s probably been a long time since you’ve flirted with another man, so you’ll need practice. Look men in the eyes and smile. If you drop something in the office, bend over without bending your knees. At night go out with girlfriends that like to party. Make it a goal to flirt with at least one man a day. The key is to increase you’re confidence. Not only will it be very satisfying to know that there are other men out there who are interested in you, but in the back of your mind you can use this knowledge as leverage against your husband.


Once you’ve properly educated yourself in the art cuckolding, freed yourself from your husband’s dick, and increased your confidence, it’s time to begin.

The first submission of your husband is the most challenging phase of the process. Even if he wants to be your slave, he will resist. There are many reasons he will do this like gender stereotypes and the years of routine between you, but first and foremost will be that he wants to save-face. Not only can he not admit to you that he wants to be your bitch, but he can’t admit it to himself either. He will never just give you power over him even though he wants to. This would violate his manhood. You need to take it from him – it’s the only way.

During this time, the power in your relationship will be in flux. Neither of you will be sure where the other stands. This uncertainty will be uncomfortable for both of you because it is human nature to order the world. You will have doubts such as, “Am I being too hard on him?” “Was this a good idea?” “Did I ruin our marriage?” These are completely normal thoughts, but you must never share them with your husband. It will have to be your own private burden. His uncertainty will be twice that of yours, so you must be the guiding hand for him. Sharing thoughts of uncertainty will only insert doubt in his mind and show weakness.

Broaching the Subject

You’ll definitely want to let him know what’s going on. If he doesn’t, how can he play along? Remember, you husband wants to be cuckolded. You only need to break the ice. For example:

Has your husband ever mentioned how you’d feel about a threesome, swinging, or anything extramarital? This may be a good place to start if he did.

“Hey honey, remember that time you mentioned having a threesome? Do you still feel the same about it?”

Judge his reaction. His eyes may light up or his heart may start beating faster. He’ll try to hide his excitement of course.

He’ll ask, “Would you really consider it?”

And you can say, “Well I’ve been thinking about it. It might be fun to make some changes.”


If you suspect your husband masturbates often, try to catch him in the act. Then you can give him hell.

“Honey, I’ve had it with you! This is the last time I catch you masturbating. It’s disrespectful and disgusting. Things are going to be changing around here!”

These are just a few examples of how to broach cuckolding with your husband. Note the range in ways. Also note cuckolding was never mentioned. At this early stage there is no need to be specific. The only thing you need to be concerned about is the main message: “Things are going to be changing.” Of all the stories you’ve read about wives cuckolding their husbands, choose the method you are most comfortable with.

Being Mean

After you’ve let him know that things will be changing around the house, you have to follow through. Remember, he won’t just give you control, you have to take it from him. Basically you’re going to have to be mean to him. If you were raised right this will probably not be easy for you. You were taught to treat everyone with the same respect you wish to have. This is one of the hardest parts of cuckolding because you’ll be breaking the Golden Rule, but once you get used to it, it becomes natural.

Start by taking aspects of his life away from him. One of the first things you can do is to take is his identity away. For example, feminize your husband’s name; Jack can become Jackie, Dan can become Danielle. Or childize his name; John can become Johnny, Bill can become Billy. You’re main objective is equate him with weakness – historically women and children. On the same lines, you can call him nicknames like, “Little One” or “Tiny.” And refer to his penis as a “dicklet.” This will strike his insecurity with his penis size, and if he never had an insecurity, it will create one.

Also don’t let him call you by name anymore. Only equals can call each other by name. Force him to refer to you as “Mistress” or “Goddess.” When you ask him a yes or no question, make him respond with “Yes, Mam” or “No, Mam.” This will help condition him.

Other examples of being mean to your husband are to take his free time away by giving him chores, his money and possessions away by demanding he be frugal, and his sex life away by withdrawing sex. Start small, but be firm. You want him to get used to submitting, and you used to dominating. For example, make him make the bed every morning from now on instead of you. Even something as inconsequential as making the bed will have a submissive effect on him and it will be something to build on later. For example, when you feel the time is right you can add to his responsibilities, “Honey, since you’re doing such a great job making the bed everyday, I’m going to have you clean the entire bedroom every morning from now on too.”

Take you time being mean. It’s more important that you are comfortable with the process than the actual process. You are training yourself to be the beautiful and terrifying wife who’s husband begs to please you. Be strict with the rules you make. If your husband doesn’t take out the trash let him know your displeasure. Punish him with real consequences if he messes up.

Punishment may be many different things depending on your style. You can be passive aggressive by withdrawing sex. You can be very aggressive and spank him. You can force him to do something perverted like eating his own semen. Just make sure you communicate with him at the time of his infracture that you are displeased with him, and that there will be consequences.

Being Nice

The beauty of being mean to your husband isn’t in its direct benefits such as stated above, but in how it redefines being nice. Things that used to be normal for him are now special treats. He used to be able to have sex with you whenever he wanted, but because you’ve withdrawn sex from him, you’ve made it a rare event – something to behold. By being constantly mean to you husband, you’ll lower his standard of what is considered nice.

Use this concept once you’ve established a baseline of meanness, which will probably take few weeks. Once being mean has become the norm you can start. For example, let him know a reward will follow his future good behavior. You can say, “I’ve decided today that if you’re a good boy all week and do all your chores, I’ll give you a blowjob at the end of the week.” A blowjob only a few weeks ago was not worth doing an entire week of chores for, but because you’re mean now, a blowjob’s value has greatly increased. Being “nice” like this you give your husband an incentive to follow your rules — further deepening your control.

Try to think of your husband as an ape you’re training. It’s all about sticks and carrots. Reward him for good behavior, punish him for bad, and most importantly, remind him that he’s lessor to you.

Your Pleasure First

Once you’ve mastered being mean to him, you can progress to a new lesson. Train him to subordinate his pleasure to yours. His new reason for being will be solely to please his mistress. Let him know this. Things like the new car he was planning on buying make off limits. Nights out with his friends, no — he has to stay in and clean. Fishing? Nope, he’s got to do laundry.

Not only will this degrade him, but it will give you more free time. Take advantage of this and enjoy it! Go to the pool and relax, go out with your friends at night, go on dates with other men. You won’t have to worry about the kids anymore because your husband is watching them. And because you’ve forbidden him from buying that big ticket item he’s been saving for, go shopping! There’s plenty of money now, right? This the time to be a hotwife — go for it.

If you don’t do these things by deciding you’d rather be nice to him, it will be to your determent. It’s up to you to fill the void of your husband’s powerlessness. If you only force him not to buy the car, but then don’t spend the freed money, you’re sending him an incomplete message. Spend the car money on yourself, and let him know, “I, your wife, don’t care about your pleasure because mine is more important.” Make sure you fill the void, you don’t want all your hard work wasted.

Changing the definition of sex

This lesson is especially important. Definitely no more blowjobs. The blowjob is the epitome of giving him pleasure. Don’t even have sexual intercourse with him. Intercourse equates both of your pleasures, not exactly the message you want to send him. If he insists on sex, have him fuck you with your favorite dildo. Make sure to mention how much bigger it is than his penis and how much you enjoy having a “real cock” in you. If you absolutely must have sex with him a good idea may be to make him wear a “long lasting” or numbing condom. This will greatly reduce his pleasure. The best thing you can turn sex into is him eating you out, period. You may want to squat on his face and force him to eat your pussy, or lay on your back and make him beg to eat you. Either way, he should soon learn what you mean when you say, “Let’s have sex.”


From here you can take things further. A good way to do this is with conditions. A condition is basically a trade. For example, “Okay wimp, I’ll let you cum tonight, but you have to cum in your hand and eat it afterwards,” or “Alright Lexie [for Alex], I’m going to be nice tonight and let you fuck me, but afterwards you’re going to have to eat your cum from my pussy.” By using conditions, you can bring him to higher levels of submission voluntarily. This is more than worth the momentary pleasure you trade him.

Once you’ve gotten your hubby to do a degrading act for the first time with a condition, the subsequent times become much easier. Let’s say it had been a month since you let you husband stick his dick in you. Then one night you offered him the chance to fuck you as long as you got to fuck him afterwards. He was so desperate to get his dick wet, he jumped at the chance. That night you give him a good cum, then put on your strap on dildo and stuck it in his ass for the first time. You’ve now made it much easier to fuck him in the ass for a 2nd time by breaking that initial barrier. You probably won’t need to bargain with him again, just force him. Using a condition at every major cuckold milestone is recommended. For example when you bring another man into the relationship. This is a big step for him, so you’ll have to coax him along with rewards.

Don’t use conditions forever. They are just a tool to use in the beginning stages of taming your husband. After a while you will have amassed so much power, there will be no need for them. You can just make him do whatever you want. Once you’ve reached this point using a condition will actually make you look weaker.


Sometime around this point you will have reached a milestone in which you can say you’ve officially turned your husband into your slave. Usually it occurs after you’ve forced your husband to do something so depraved that he has no self respect anymore. It may be the night you take his anal virginity, the night you come home from a bar and make him eat another man’s cum from your pussy, or the time you force him to suck another man’s larger penis. All the hard work you have done training yourself and your husband culminates here. For afterwards the change in your relationship will be so apparent that both of you will never be able to go back. He will be stricken with terrible shame and embarrassment, and you will have finally tasted the ecstasy of pure power.

Also remember that with great power comes responsibility. You are now responsible for another human being. You will have to make many more decisions because he has deferred authority to you, his dominatrix. You have changed his life purpose from the pursuit of happiness to the pursuit of your happiness; you must give him every opportunity to fulfill this new mission and he will be grateful to serve you.

Now relax, you’ve made it! Enjoy the lifestyle perks that cuckolding has to offer. Live a life of leisure. Have you husband take care of all the mundane things. Make him do all sorts of nasty and perverted things. Sleep with other men at will and bring them home to play. Whatever you choose to do with your cuckold, enjoy the luxury of choice!

I am very interested in living this lifestyle. Are you?

Craigslist: You want to watch your wife squirm in ecstacy

I admit it…I troll the Craigslist classifieds. About once a week, you can find me there looking for posts by single men that seem interesting, in the hopes that they might just be nearby enough for Allie and I to meet (they rarely are). And over the past ear or so, I’ve noticed a huge increase in men seeking cuckold or related fetish encounters.  When someone crafts a particularly thoughtful, well-spoken or just plain hot ad, I think it deserves a mention. Here’s one I found today in Craigslist SF Bay:

You want to watch your wife squirm in ecstacy – m4mw
You’ve wanted to see your wife squirm in ecstasy, impaled on a hard cock that plunges so deeply into her that she’s breathless. And you’d like to see her submissively being used for another man’s pleasure.

Problem is, she either isn’t ready for that type of experience or she’s afraid it won’t go well and will leave her feeling embarrassed. I thrive on both situations because I love the challenge of getting into the woman’s mind and finding ways to get her to do as I like, even if it means doing things she wouldn’t normally dream of. Better (but not required), you’re looking to experience all the things a cuckold goes through in the way of jealousy and humiliation. If that’s your pleasure then as the relationship evolves you may well end up being asked to participate in ways that make you uncomfortable but extremely aroused: preparing her for me, presenting her to me, even guiding my cock up between her parted legs and being told to go play with yourself as you listen to her gasps of pleasure. And afterwards, long afterwards, look to clean us up as she lies in my arms and looks you in the eyes. Count on watching your wife’s defenses melt away as I make her feel mentally and physically beautiful and sexier than ever before.

Here’s the deal. You tell me about your wife’s likes, dislikes, interests, opinions, objections, desires, and current (but soon to be expanded) limits. I’ll know her like an open book by the time we meet. We’ll also work out how best for that meeting to take place; chance encounter or pre-arranged get-together, alone or with you there. I’ll be using all you told me about her to say every right thing she wants to hear. The scene that unfolds will depend on how contact is made and where instinct takes us. If you’re there, you’ll watch her allow me to flirtingly touch her in ways she wouldn’t normally allow but will with someone so in tune with all her thoughts. Pretty soon I’ll be seated next to her, my hands going from her knee to up along her inner thigh, and into the silky material of her panties. From there, resistance is futile. She’s mine for as long as we feel inclined to go with it.

I’m athletic with a touch of grey, well-endowed, creative, financially comfortable, broadly educated, open-minded, confident, and very very seductive. I love married women and girlfriends in LTR’s, even more than unattached single ones. All women appreciate attention but these women particularly crave it, even when they start out saying it’s not for them. And the added theater of a cuckold husband in the background is extremely erotic to me.

The next step is yours. Even if you’re at the fantasy stage with this and want to explore your thoughts and you think I might be the type of guy who can turn your woman into a complete whore then send me a photo of her along with a description of her personality and the outcome you’d like to see evolve.

Craigslist — Me: Monogamous to you. You: A future hotwife or cuckoldress

You gotta love the pervs on Craigslist. There is a thriving community of people there that are seeking out cuckolding relationships, and I think it’s awesome. Of course, there are people there seeking out all kinds of fetish relationships as well, but to me the cuckolds, hotwives and bulls really stand out. Plus, it’s what I’m trying to find on there to share here. LOL

Here’s a great ad from a man looking for the hotwife of his dreams. I hope he finds what he’s looking for.

Me: Monogamous to you. You: A future hotwife or cuckoldress – m4w – 45

You’re an intelligent, discerning woman. You are well aware that being in a relationship and living with a male has its ups and downs, most especially in the sex department and the new person is stimulating department.You’re a woman that craves the security of a marriage and yet the freedom to bring home other men, to date other men, to share your time with other men, to have sex with other men and maybe…..even breed with other men.

And yet, you expect your man to be completely monogamous to you and never, ever stray.

There are two such dynamics that you should consider.

First, is the role of a hotwife.

A hotwife is a woman who marrys a man for the security of marriage but enjoys the freedom of having sex with whomever she chooses, inculding her husband. While the man and woman are usually equals in the relationship, her sexual freedom is an implicit part of the marriage.

Example: Doug and Jill are husband and wife and entered in to the marriage with the understanding that Doug would remain monogamous to Jill and that Jill could have any man she desired with Dougs knowledge and consent.

Second is the role of a cuckoldress.

A woman who has convinced her husband or boyfriend that his penis is sexually inadequate and he accepts his wife’s pussy is her solely property and she alone decides which men she will fuck and even breeds with, even if it means denying her husband. She needs no consent and does not need to tell him anything about her liasons. His only access to her pussy is to clean it of the ejaculate of males she chooses to fuck.

Example: Doug has the small penis of a young boy and has never given his wife Jill an orgasm with his small penis. He has given her wonderful orgasms orally but she decides she needs more. She gave him a choice: Either divorce and (she would take a large portion of his income) or be a cuckold where she could have any man she desired and he would remain monogamous to her.

He is now a fully submissive cuckold to Jill and she now takes all of his income and doles him out a small allowance, while she uses the balance for dating, buying makeup, perfume, lingere and nice dating clothing to be pleasing and sexy to the other men in her life. When Jill comes home from these dates, she keeps the bond alive by allowing Doug to orally go down on her after she has been with other men. Dougs only sexual release is through masturbation or maybe “sloppy seconds” if Jill is feeling especially generous.

She no longer works for three reasons. 1. To ensure that if Doug ever leaves the marriage, the lifestyle that she has grown accoustomed to as well as her lack of income spanning many years means she derives a much larger portion of his income should he choose to leave the relationship. 2. She has helped him understand that supporting a wife is a husbands responsibility. 3. Not working permits her the freedom to have daytime liasons.

I’m in search of a hotwife or cuckoldress relationship with a woman. I’m handsome, intelligent, secure, witty, fun to date and even more fun to have a relationship with.

Care to date me and see where things lead?

On a related note: since Craigslist ads usually expire after seven days, I feel like I have to share the full text of these ads. And because of that, I don’t want to link to them, since the link won’t work after a week. But if you would like to refine your Craigslist cuckold search, for all cities, just Google “cuckold“.

I’ll continue to post the more memorable ones I find though!

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