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Here you’ll find posts with advice for hotwife and cuckold relationships, or advice on swinging and polyamorous encounters. This includes posts I’ve written about threesome advice, advice about creampies and advice for hotwife anklets and jewelry.


Chastity device feedback roundup

You guys left all kinds of great advice and stories of your experiences when I asked for feedback about chastity devices. Thanks so much!

Here are some of the highlights of what you said in email:

Ruby writes:

I bought a CB6000 for my husband. It’s great to play with, but we don’t really use it for long periods of time. I have him put it on when I want him to focus on getting his work done on the computer and not get distracted by looking at pictures of me having sex and masturbating. It does wonders for keeping his attention on the task at hand.

hub4ck writes:

Sometimes I wear it all day long at work and the fun goes all day with sexy text and phone calls. I have worn it for 3-4 days all day and night a couple of times. It’s fun to get all worked up for days on end and not be able to get “relief”, my only thoughts are to satisfy her, I just focus all that locked up sexual energy into orally pleasing her. Of course I want satisfaction, but I don’t get it and the headgame goes on for another day.

Little Man P writes:

Finally, i have not worn my device long enough for a true behavioral change to occur (i wish!). My wife is too sensitive to my pain to allow that to occur. However, I believe that with prolonged wear, the male will have to alter his thought patterns to eliminate painful semi-erections and manage his inner arousal. Behavior modification is a wonderful and powerful thing!

Thanks for the great email everyone! I’d love to hear more about your experiences and how you incorporate it into your fantasy (or real life) play.

Craigslist: Curious About Cuckolding?

I monitor Craigslist personals pretty frequently for well-written ads by couples or single men interested in this lifestyle. They’re few and far between, believe me. I’m all for getting to the point, but most of the ads out there are not only too short, they are just mindless and unappealing.

Every now and then, a thoughtful one worthy to share with the group comes through my feed reader. Here’s one from a single man in the Chicago suburbs. Men, take note: this is a great example of how to write an ad that will get noticed. Craigslist ads expire quickly, so here’s a reprint:

Are You A Couple Curious About Cuckolding? - m4mw (Western Surburbs)
Date: 2008-06-22, 7:27AM CDT

Cuckolding is not for everyone.

But for those couples lucky enough to have a strong marriage, a desire for white-hot sexual play, and a husband who has that special gene that turns him on when his loved one is taken by another, this can be the ultimate adventure.

I am seeking such a couple to develop a cuck relationship. This happens one excruciatingly erotic step at a time, as the powerful sexual energy of cuckolding draws on the well of the mind to explode into the physical play. What all this means to the cuckold is as powerful as what is actually done by his wife.

This would involve me dating the wife, who has her pleasure at her discretion, and controls how much she tells her husband, allows him to participate, and requires him to support her. Rules can be developed, usually ones that make the cuck very aroused, and the lovers smile.

I am not seeking an invitation just to have me come over and have sex with the wife in front of the husband (although this may indeed happen in cuckolding). Often this is arranged by the husband, who is in charge, lining up a lay for the wife. That’s just swinging, which is fun, but not what I’m seeking. Cuckolding is an intense relationship adjustment between husband and wife in which she is in control and she has her pleasure with another at her whim, while controlling the husband’s pleasure with her.

As the lover, I enjoy the wife in a special way, and enjoy participating to some degree. I’m very creative and enjoy helping the wife sexually torture her husband with our relationship … torture in the good sense, of course, that he is hard, hyperventilating and in agony waiting for the chance to have some relief with her.

Experience is not necessary. Sincerity and willingness to explore safely and sanely is. As always, this must be 100 percent discreet. I very much prefer couples who are emotionally mature and have a good relationship and good personalities.

It is a given that if the husband is not a cuck, he will not be convinced to do so and this will almost never happen. The wife can be convinced to participate in time, given a stepwise development. But a cuck is almost born, not made. There are many men who secretly are deeply aroused at the thought of their wives truly enjoying another man to the exclusion of the husband’s intimate needs. As with many forms of D/s and other sexual adventures, this becomes a paradox: The prime determinant of cuckolding is the cuck, who ultimately has the least power and sometimes the greatest erotic experience. However, this is also so hot that this notice should probably also be in the m4w section as well.

If this is interesting to you, drop me a line and we’ll chat. You don’t have to be married and you don’t have to live nearby. Because this involves a great deal of verbal / relational play as well as realtime dating, this could be done at some distance.

Chastity device advice, anyone? I need help.

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I’m interested in learning more about other peoples’ experiences, cuckold or not, with different male chastity devices, particularly with a CB-6000 chastity cage. If you have any first-hand experience with this, or other similar male chastity devices, I’d love to hear from you. I’m not saying I’m looking for one–I’m just saying I’m interested in learning more. Please send me an email, or post some thoughts in the comments.

Introducing Hot Wife Anna

Scott, husband of the beautiful new hot wife Anna, recently sent me a series of her photos to share with the readers here. He is very proud of her, and is coming to grips with the thought of her dating other men. She’s just started to date other men–and he couldn’t be more thrilled.

Scott does have a major issue though, and that’s jealousy. I can totally relate, but as I’ve covered a few times here (and here), it’s possible to overcome and enjoy it immensely–as long as you recognize it and deal with it.

He writes:

She’s trying to see her guy tonight. I’m still struggling with jealously. She’s told me how much she likes to fuck him. He’s more dominant than I am. She says that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like having sex with me, but she likes the balance since I tend to be submissive to her. And she doesn’t want me to be more dominant, because that’s not me. So I’m trying not to take that as an insult.

So anyway, she said if you want to post one or all of her pics, feel free to do so. She wants to read the comments.

Anna recently lost 65 pounds and is feeling great about herself. She gets attention, which is something she thrives on. We’ve fucked more this year than we have in the past 5 years.

And by looking over these photos, it looks like Scott has more than a few reasons to be jealous. Anna is just hot! I don’t know about you, but I’d fuck her too!

So…please post your thoughts to Scott in the comments about how he might best learn to deal with his growing cuckold jealousy. Also, to you fellow cucks in the audience, please tell him what you do at home waiting for your wife to return from a date. He could use the advice.

Hotwife Anna

Hotwife Anna

Hotwife Anna

Hotwife Anna

How does it feel to be a cuckold? In a word: Jealous

A lot of you have been emailing me privately over the past week or so, since I started to talk more about how Allie has a new lover in her life. Most of your questions have been, more or less, about how does it feel?

Tom asks:

How does it feel to be a cuckold now, David?

Jason asks:

What’s been going through your mind now that Allie is fucking again?

The truth is, I couldn’t feel better. But the feeling, is indeed, jealousy. How can I reconcile the two, you might ask?

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, as you can imagine. Why would I enjoy feeling jealous? I wrote a memorable post on cuckold jealousy last year, but now I’m still dealing with my own personal issues.

Time and time again, I’ve counseled readers privately with their own feelings of jealousy as they explore their own cuckold / hotwife experiences and fantasies. I can attest that I had kind of forgotten how particularly powerful they can be. What is it about jealousy that could possibly be enjoyable though?

So, I started thinking about why people might enjoy other kinds of fetishes. You know, like spanking, or water sports, or extreme humiliation. Of course, there are tons of reasons why people might be into whatever fetish they crave, so I’m not even going to attempt to try to generalize them all.

One thing got me thinking though. Fetishes do generate incredible emotional responses, some we might classify as good, and some we might call bad. But all of them are very powerful emotions. It could be, that for some people, the raw power of a particular emotion–even something we might at first consider bad or harmful, could become a turn on. Just like the person that enjoys being spanked–and begins to get off on the pain of it–a person could begin to be turned on by the feeling of jealousy.

So, watching my hot wife get fucked, or, as in the case so far with Mark, hearing about her getting fucked stirs up some incredible pangs of jealousy, not to mention some incredibly hot views. And that jealousy, in turn, drives my passion for Allie.

There are other reactions I have in addition, sure. I love seeing her being a slut, and I love watching her in action. I love the buildup to her leaving on a date, and I love the play-by-play I get when she gets home. And there are other perks as well.

What do you think? Think I might be on to something? Post your thoughts in the comments and I’ll try to keep up with the conversation.

Introducing Hot Wife Carol

Hot Wife Carol

I’d like to introduce a couple I had the pleasure of befriending online recently. Please meet Carol, a thirty-something hot wife from the Flint, Michigan area, and her loving cuckold husband Mike.

Carol is currently looking for new men to play with, while her husband watches. They’ve been having a lot of trouble finding prospective dates in their area–and the men that they’ve tried to meet have either 1) flaked out on them, 2) not been able to hold an intelligent conversation or 3) came across as too eager or too hyper.

As you can see in her photo, Carol has ample curves and a great set of 38-D tits. She has few limits–and her cuckold hubby is eager to watch or join in, depending on the situation.

Carol explained to me a phenomenon she hopes to avoid with her I’ve decided to coin The Zombie Factor. (Carol’s words, not mine. LOL)

Simply put, The Zombie Factor is a humorous trance-like state many of her dates have found themselves in soon after she’s met them in public for the first time, be it at a bar, restaurant, coffee shop or similar place. The Zombie Factor is typically characterized by excessive staring at a woman’s breasts and cleavage, forgetting how to talk (or only wishing to talk about sex), or seeming to be singularly focused on jumping into the sack with her as quickly as possible. You know…essentially acting as a mindless, drooling zombie. (”BRAAAAIIIINNNNSSSS…”)

Not that Carol doesn’t enjoy you staring at her ample cleavage or wanting to get her into bed. Quite the contrary. However, she’s tired of being treated as a piece of meat by mindless guys that seem to have a one-track focus. She doesn’t need to be seduced or wooed (though that would be nice). She would though like a guy that can at least carry on a decent, smart conversation, and is willing to talk about other stuff than just hotwives and cuckolds.

So…in a nutshell, that’s the Zombie Factor. I think all of us involved in a hotwife couple have experienced it before. You zombies out there (and you know who you are) now know what you need to work on. :)

If you’re in or around the Flint, Michigan area, and would be interested in meeting Carol and her cuckold Mike, please send us an email here to the blog (the address in in the left-hand sidebar), and I will pass your information on to them. She’s hoping to meet potential dates via the blog here. You know the drill though guys, act like you’ve been there. And send photos you’d share with your mom, okay? There’s a time and place for cock pictures, and the first introduction isn’t it.

If you like what you see, please say so in the comments. I’m sure that Carol could be convinced to share more pictures in the future.

I’m asking you: How do you convince a wife to become a hot wife?

I get tons of email every week asking variations of this same question. They go something like this:

  • How can I convince my shy wife to sleep with other men?
  • Do you know the easiest way to get my wife to try cuckolding me?
  • What’s the easiest way to tell my wife that I want her to fuck other men in front of me?
  • Can you help me figure out the best way to bring the concept of hotwives up to my wife?

(sigh) Well, I’ve tried time and time again to answer this question for literally dozens (if not hundreds by now) of men. There’s no easy answer, and no two wives, nor marriages, are the same.

So, I’m turning this question back to you, dear readers. What would you say? Help me build a good answer to this stalwart FAQ and make a great resource for all the enthusiastic, yet confused and timid husbands out there that are ready and willing for their wives to be as ready and willing as they are. Please post your thoughts in the comments!

Q&A: Meeting a couple for the first time

Joe, a 22-year old stud, writes:

I’m wondering if you might give me some advice. I’m meeting a couple tonight for the first time. I’d like to make things go smoothly, but the husband is having some pangs of jealousy leading up to it. It’s their first time ever doing this, and even though we’re planning of more of a MFM threesome encounter, rather than cuckolding him in front of his hot wife. I’m worried about pissing him off. I just wanted to ask what you thought the best approach would be when I first meet them for drinks at a restaurant tonight. Do you think I should be somewhat aggressive and play with her under the table, or should I tone it down?

Well, hopefully you’ve already reviewed our advice for single men. In my opinion, you should always start off as nothing but respectful. Be your charming, non-threatening self, as if you were on a first date with a girl, with absolutely no expectations of sex. No doubt you can be a little flirty with them. However, ask for permission before getting too “hands on.” It never hurts to ask before your hands begin to wander, and a little politeness will go a long way. Odds are, they’re as nervous as you are.

But, remember this date is something they want as well. You’re their fantasy as much as they are yours. So, maybe you could try to find an ice breaker that will allow you to lead them into the kind of encounter that you both desire.

And for heaven’s sake, don’t forget to be complimentary of his wife, to both of them.

Readers, what other advice do you have for Joe on his date tonight? Post your thoughts in the comments.

“The Marital Bed” - A cuckold dilemma

From time to time, I hear people talking about the issue of the marital bed and it’s place in cuckold and hotwife relationships. The big question is, “should your wife be with her lover in the same bed where the two of you sleep and make love together as a married couple (if you’re a cuckold that should be so lucky)?” Should a hot wife welcome another man (or men even) that is not her husband into the bed she shares with her husband?

Is their truth to the belief that no place is more sacred to a married couple than their bed? And to “defile” it by the wife screwing another man is blasphemous to that sacred ideal?

It all sounds so, well, so Victorian. Yet, it’s a big deal with a lot of couples out there. I can’t tell you what the right or wrong answer is to this. Every couple is different, and every couple will have their own opinions about what is and is not off limits. I can though tell you how we dealt with it.

Allie and I considered this when we first started swinging with other couples several years ago. Back then, we came to the conclusion that we wouldn’t bring that kind of play into our bedroom. We didn’t mind it happening in our house or guest bedroom, but our bed was going to be reserved for just us.

Every room–every flat surface in our house–was fair game, except our bed.

It didn’t last.

Our king-size bed was the perfect playground for other couples that we invited over for playtime. And our pajama party guests eventually ended up there. It was just the most comfortable place for us all to end up. Yet, playing in there didn’t seem taboo in the sense above–since there were usually more women involved than just Allie, and everyone was having fun equally.

As we started down the road into more hotwife / cuckold encounters, I was hesitant about inviting men into our bed to share my wife. The thought that men were fucking my wife in our bed while I watched played on different dominant and submissive fantasies our minds. Finally, the temptation to indulge those fantasies became too much to bear, and our bed became our venue of choice. I love collapsing asleep after hours of watching her and her boyfriends in the same bed where the act just took place. Or even having to sleep in the guestroom down the hall, while Allie and her lovers fuck throughout the night in our bed.

Still, it’s not always the most convenient venue. You probably don’t want to bring strangers into your bedroom, no matter how hot the fantasy. It’s best to keep the first several intitial encounters in a hotel room or swing club. Men have to gain our trust and friendship before they’re allowed in to the inner sanctum, so to speak. And once they’ve found their way into our bedroom, then the hottest experiences usually occur.

Craigslist: The perfect husband

I’ve found yet another installment in my ongoing series of cuckold and hotwife related posts and personals from Craigslist. This is a particularly good one from the City of Brotherly Love, where someone has taken the time to write a great tutorial for wives interested in making their husbands cuckolds. Enjoy!

The perfect husband

Turning your husband into a cuckold can be one of the most rewarding things you ever do. A successfully cuckolded husband will be completely submissive. He will satisfy all your sexual cravings, manage all the mundane chores of your life, allow you to sleep with whomever you wish, and will willingly subject himself to any amount of humiliation you desire.

But be warned, cuckolding can also be one of the most challenging things you ever do. The process is long, complicated, energy consuming, and by no means sure of success. The strain on your marriage will be unbelievable, and it may be weeks or months before you succeed.

This document has been provided to educate women on how to begin the wonderful journey of female domination and to hopefully relieve some of the apprehension that might prevent a woman from ever trying. After reading this it will be clearer that cuckolding your husband is not as hard as it seems, and that accomplishing this feat is more possible than you thought.

The most common reason a women doesn’t cuckold her husband is that she thinks he’ll never go for it - that he’s not the type. This is such a myth that it must be disproved immediately. Many cuckolds begin as ordinary husbands. Your husband may even be as manly as men come, but don’t worry, cuckolding is often a just a matter of helping your hubby discover his submissive side. Take heart in the fact that underneath all his machoness and pride, there is a cock loving wimp that is begging you to force him to do all sorts of nasty things.

First train yourself

Think of cuckolding as an art. For the wife who decides to cuckold her husband, she must have complete mastery of certain skills. Much like a artist making a painting - she must go to school, read, and practice. So like an artist, before you ever begin training your husband, you must first train yourself. You’re about to go on an incredible journey; you want to be prepared, right?

The world of cuckolding is unlike the normal world. It has various rules and customs that are different from everyday life, of which you must be aware. You must immerse yourself in this new culture. To begin, start reading erotic stories that deal with cuckolding. Many women before you have cuckolded their husbands and recorded their experiences. Also many men have written about their decent into female domination. Learn from them. Reading stories will acquaint you to the new world of cuckolding and will prevent you from having to reinvent anything. Beyond stories, you may want to read books on female domination, and buy videos of dominatrixes humiliating men.

You must also train yourself to be sexually independent. If you want to control your husband you need to not need his penis. In the future you will need to deny your husband the pleasures of your body and this will be only possible if you are strong enough to abstain from sex. Sex between you and your hubby is probably pretty vanilla anyway if you’re thinking about cuckolding him, so it shouldn’t be too hard. Masturbate often. Splurge on vibrators, dildos, lotions, clothing, and pornography. Have fun! Visit your local sex shop and ask for ideas. You may also want to think about buying toys that you can also use on your husband once he’s properly trained. The key is whenever you really have the urge for a fucking, train yourself to seek satisfaction from a source other than your husband, i.e. when you’re horny, take out your vibrator.

A good way to help your training along is to change your appearance. Make it your goal to become a hotwife. The prime focus of a hotwife is expressing her sexuality in all manners, from the type of shoes she wears to the way she shaves her pussy. A hotwife wears tight fitting clothes as much as she can. She wears short skirts, perfume, and high-heels all the time. She does her hair and wears makeup daily. At night she wears sexy lingerie. She goes to the gym often. When she goes to the grocery store she doesn’t wear underwear. If you start doing thing like these, not only will you be sending a signal to your husband that you’ve changed, but you’ll be sending a signal to yourself. Because you look like a hotwife, you’ll think you’re a hotwife, and then you’ll be a hotwife! The advantages to being a hotwife are numerous. You’re husband will lust for you much more, even if he doesn’t show it, other men will croon over you (this will increase your confidence), and your sexual energy will increase, all of which you can channel into power.

Also feel free to start flirting. It’s probably been a long time since you’ve flirted with another man, so you’ll need practice. Look men in the eyes and smile. If you drop something in the office, bend over without bending your knees. At night go out with girlfriends that like to party. Make it a goal to flirt with at least one man a day. The key is to increase you’re confidence. Not only will it be very satisfying to know that there are other men out there who are interested in you, but in the back of your mind you can use this knowledge as leverage against your husband.

Beginning

Once you’ve properly educated yourself in the art cuckolding, freed yourself from your husband’s dick, and increased your confidence, it’s time to begin.

The first submission of your husband is the most challenging phase of the process. Even if he wants to be your slave, he will resist. There are many reasons he will do this like gender stereotypes and the years of routine between you, but first and foremost will be that he wants to save-face. Not only can he not admit to you that he wants to be your bitch, but he can’t admit it to himself either. He will never just give you power over him even though he wants to. This would violate his manhood. You need to take it from him - it’s the only way.

During this time, the power in your relationship will be in flux. Neither of you will be sure where the other stands. This uncertainty will be uncomfortable for both of you because it is human nature to order the world. You will have doubts such as, “Am I being too hard on him?” “Was this a good idea?” “Did I ruin our marriage?” These are completely normal thoughts, but you must never share them with your husband. It will have to be your own private burden. His uncertainty will be twice that of yours, so you must be the guiding hand for him. Sharing thoughts of uncertainty will only insert doubt in his mind and show weakness.

Broaching the Subject

You’ll definitely want to let him know what’s going on. If he doesn’t, how can he play along? Remember, you husband wants to be cuckolded. You only need to break the ice. For example:

Has your husband ever mentioned how you’d feel about a threesome, swinging, or anything extramarital? This may be a good place to start if he did.

“Hey honey, remember that time you mentioned having a threesome? Do you still feel the same about it?”

Judge his reaction. His eyes may light up or his heart may start beating faster. He’ll try to hide his excitement of course.

He’ll ask, “Would you really consider it?”

And you can say, “Well I’ve been thinking about it. It might be fun to make some changes.”

or

If you suspect your husband masturbates often, try to catch him in the act. Then you can give him hell.

“Honey, I’ve had it with you! This is the last time I catch you masturbating. It’s disrespectful and disgusting. Things are going to be changing around here!”

These are just a few examples of how to broach cuckolding with your husband. Note the range in ways. Also note cuckolding was never mentioned. At this early stage there is no need to be specific. The only thing you need to be concerned about is the main message: “Things are going to be changing.” Of all the stories you’ve read about wives cuckolding their husbands, choose the method you are most comfortable with.

Being Mean

After you’ve let him know that things will be changing around the house, you have to follow through. Remember, he won’t just give you control, you have to take it from him. Basically you’re going to have to be mean to him. If you were raised right this will probably not be easy for you. You were taught to treat everyone with the same respect you wish to have. This is one of the hardest parts of cuckolding because you’ll be breaking the Golden Rule, but once you get used to it, it becomes natural.

Start by taking aspects of his life away from him. One of the first things you can do is to take is his identity away. For example, feminize your husband’s name; Jack can become Jackie, Dan can become Danielle. Or childize his name; John can become Johnny, Bill can become Billy. You’re main objective is equate him with weakness - historically women and children. On the same lines, you can call him nicknames like, “Little One” or “Tiny.” And refer to his penis as a “dicklet.” This will strike his insecurity with his penis size, and if he never had an insecurity, it will create one.

Also don’t let him call you by name anymore. Only equals can call each other by name. Force him to refer to you as “Mistress” or “Goddess.” When you ask him a yes or no question, make him respond with “Yes, Mam” or “No, Mam.” This will help condition him.

Other examples of being mean to your husband are to take his free time away by giving him chores, his money and possessions away by demanding he be frugal, and his sex life away by withdrawing sex. Start small, but be firm. You want him to get used to submitting, and you used to dominating. For example, make him make the bed every morning from now on instead of you. Even something as inconsequential as making the bed will have a submissive effect on him and it will be something to build on later. For example, when you feel the time is right you can add to his responsibilities, “Honey, since you’re doing such a great job making the bed everyday, I’m going to have you clean the entire bedroom every morning from now on too.”

Take you time being mean. It’s more important that you are comfortable with the process than the actual process. You are training yourself to be the beautiful and terrifying wife who’s husband begs to please you. Be strict with the rules you make. If your husband doesn’t take out the trash let him know your displeasure. Punish him with real consequences if he messes up.

Punishment may be many different things depending on your style. You can be passive aggressive by withdrawing sex. You can be very aggressive and spank him. You can force him to do something perverted like eating his own semen. Just make sure you communicate with him at the time of his infracture that you are displeased with him, and that there will be consequences.

Being Nice

The beauty of being mean to your husband isn’t in its direct benefits such as stated above, but in how it redefines being nice. Things that used to be normal for him are now special treats. He used to be able to have sex with you whenever he wanted, but because you’ve withdrawn sex from him, you’ve made it a rare event - something to behold. By being constantly mean to you husband, you’ll lower his standard of what is considered nice.

Use this concept once you’ve established a baseline of meanness, which will probably take few weeks. Once being mean has become the norm you can start. For example, let him know a reward will follow his future good behavior. You can say, “I’ve decided today that if you’re a good boy all week and do all your chores, I’ll give you a blowjob at the end of the week.” A blowjob only a few weeks ago was not worth doing an entire week of chores for, but because you’re mean now, a blowjob’s value has greatly increased. Being “nice” like this you give your husband an incentive to follow your rules – further deepening your control.

Try to think of your husband as an ape you’re training. It’s all about sticks and carrots. Reward him for good behavior, punish him for bad, and most importantly, remind him that he’s lessor to you.

Your Pleasure First

Once you’ve mastered being mean to him, you can progress to a new lesson. Train him to subordinate his pleasure to yours. His new reason for being will be solely to please his mistress. Let him know this. Things like the new car he was planning on buying make off limits. Nights out with his friends, no – he has to stay in and clean. Fishing? Nope, he’s got to do laundry.

Not only will this degrade him, but it will give you more free time. Take advantage of this and enjoy it! Go to the pool and relax, go out with your friends at night, go on dates with other men. You won’t have to worry about the kids anymore because your husband is watching them. And because you’ve forbidden him from buying that big ticket item he’s been saving for, go shopping! There’s plenty of money now, right? This the time to be a hotwife – go for it.

If you don’t do these things by deciding you’d rather be nice to him, it will be to your determent. It’s up to you to fill the void of your husband’s powerlessness. If you only force him not to buy the car, but then don’t spend the freed money, you’re sending him an incomplete message. Spend the car money on yourself, and let him know, “I, your wife, don’t care about your pleasure because mine is more important.” Make sure you fill the void, you don’t want all your hard work wasted.

Changing the definition of sex

This lesson is especially important. Definitely no more blowjobs. The blowjob is the epitome of giving him pleasure. Don’t even have sexual intercourse with him. Intercourse equates both of your pleasures, not exactly the message you want to send him. If he insists on sex, have him fuck you with your favorite dildo. Make sure to mention how much bigger it is than his penis and how much you enjoy having a “real cock” in you. If you absolutely must have sex with him a good idea may be to make him wear a “long lasting” or numbing condom. This will greatly reduce his pleasure. The best thing you can turn sex into is him eating you out, period. You may want to squat on his face and force him to eat your pussy, or lay on your back and make him beg to eat you. Either way, he should soon learn what you mean when you say, “Let’s have sex.”

Conditions

From here you can take things further. A good way to do this is with conditions. A condition is basically a trade. For example, “Okay wimp, I’ll let you cum tonight, but you have to cum in your hand and eat it afterwards,” or “Alright Lexie [for Alex], I’m going to be nice tonight and let you fuck me, but afterwards you’re going to have to eat your cum from my pussy.” By using conditions, you can bring him to higher levels of submission voluntarily. This is more than worth the momentary pleasure you trade him.

Once you’ve gotten your hubby to do a degrading act for the first time with a condition, the subsequent times become much easier. Let’s say it had been a month since you let you husband stick his dick in you. Then one night you offered him the chance to fuck you as long as you got to fuck him afterwards. He was so desperate to get his dick wet, he jumped at the chance. That night you give him a good cum, then put on your strap on dildo and stuck it in his ass for the first time. You’ve now made it much easier to fuck him in the ass for a 2nd time by breaking that initial barrier. You probably won’t need to bargain with him again, just force him. Using a condition at every major cuckold milestone is recommended. For example when you bring another man into the relationship. This is a big step for him, so you’ll have to coax him along with rewards.

Don’t use conditions forever. They are just a tool to use in the beginning stages of taming your husband. After a while you will have amassed so much power, there will be no need for them. You can just make him do whatever you want. Once you’ve reached this point using a condition will actually make you look weaker.

Congratulations!

Sometime around this point you will have reached a milestone in which you can say you’ve officially turned your husband into your slave. Usually it occurs after you’ve forced your husband to do something so depraved that he has no self respect anymore. It may be the night you take his anal virginity, the night you come home from a bar and make him eat another man’s cum from your pussy, or the time you force him to suck another man’s larger penis. All the hard work you have done training yourself and your husband culminates here. For afterwards the change in your relationship will be so apparent that both of you will never be able to go back. He will be stricken with terrible shame and embarrassment, and you will have finally tasted the ecstasy of pure power.

Also remember that with great power comes responsibility. You are now responsible for another human being. You will have to make many more decisions because he has deferred authority to you, his dominatrix. You have changed his life purpose from the pursuit of happiness to the pursuit of your happiness; you must give him every opportunity to fulfill this new mission and he will be grateful to serve you.

Now relax, you’ve made it! Enjoy the lifestyle perks that cuckolding has to offer. Live a life of leisure. Have you husband take care of all the mundane things. Make him do all sorts of nasty and perverted things. Sleep with other men at will and bring them home to play. Whatever you choose to do with your cuckold, enjoy the luxury of having the choice…

I am very interested in living this lifestyle. Are you?

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