Hot Wife Allie

Rod, one of our readers and devoted husband, writes:

I am the loving, adoring husband of my unfaithful wife Karen.

Here’s my story. When I was dating Karen, I was extremely jealous. I’d obsess over the possibility she was attracted to other guys and I’d try to manipulate things to keep her from being around potential rivals. She really hated it when I jealous, but I couldn’t help it.

When I got married, my wife revealed to me that she’d cheated during our courtship. She had deliberately defied my jealousy. What’s more, she also revealed that the guys she went with were super attractive and great lovers and she had extremely intense orgasms. When she told me this, I became nauseated and almost vomited. Over the next few months, I contemplated divorcing her as I went through feelings of anger, jealousy, deep hurt, confusion, and depression. Karen assured me that she would not cheat during our marriage, so even though I wasn’t sure our relationship could ever recover, I stayed with her and kept trying to understand.

One day when we were talking about it, Karen said something that struck me odd. She said that I should try even harder to be a good husband if another man threatened our marriage. I was shocked. I told her the opposite was true, and I was horrified at the thought that she might think she could get away with cheating, and having me try harder than ever to be a good husband. That, I thought, would be the ultimate humiliation.

Over time, Karen’s statement stayed with me. As much as it humiliated me and I wanted to dismiss it and contradict it, it resonated with something deep inside me. Then something else happened that I shocked me even more. I started having dreams in which I cooperated with her while she visited and had sex with other men. I was humiliated that some part of my mind was accepting Karen’s potential infidelity. But, … over time these dreams became more and more appealing and exciting. And Karen’s statement about me trying harder to be a good husband kept getting more and more appealing. This was all a tremendous relief to me. Feeling constant jealousy is stressful and miserable. Being turned on feels much better!

After months of struggling with these feelings, I finally admitted it to Karen. She was surprised and intrigued, not angry. However, she knew how jealous I was and didn’t trust me to really be able to handle such an arrangement in reality. For the next few years, it just remained a fantasy that we’d talk about occasionally.

One day, Karen told me she’d been super horny lately. It occurred to me that perhaps it was another man that was getting to her. I responded as calmly and naturally as I could, asking her who she was thinking about. Karen paused for a moment. I knew she was debating whether to risk being open with me. Then she admitted that she was attracted to many men and had been fantasizing more and more about sleeping with them.

In the years before, Karen and I had both gotten adjusted to the idea and now the time was right. I was sure I was ready to be cuckolded and Karen now trusted me. Karen and I sat together discussing it, with lots of kissing and hugging. We agreed that I would remain faithful but she was free to pursue any sexual relationship she wished. We discussed what would probably be the best situations for her, but I gave up all control. It was completely up to her and whatever lucky man she seduced to determine what she would do.

This completely reinvigorated our marriage. I felt no jealousy, only love and excitement.

Karen went on frequent business trips. The next time she traveled, she met a man at a beach resort. She told me they walked along the beach holding hands and they kissed on the beach. It was now becoming real and I was put to the test. When she told me, I felt only love for her. I loved knowing another man’s lips had been on my wife’s lips. In fact, I was actually disappointed it hadn’t gone further.

The next time she traveled, Karen met a man she found irresistible. They ended up back in her hotel room. She wasn’t sure she’d sleep with him, but he charmed her. They started making out and she stroked the bulge in his pants and then took his cock out. They went mad for each other. She got so hot she thought she might faint. He fucked her to several intense orgasms.

When I heard what happened, I was intensely turned on and I was even more in love with Karen than ever before. I started trying to be the best husband on Earth and loving it. What I’d once thought would be hell was now heaven.

I began eagerly encouraging Karen to get a boyfriend in our home town. I loved the idea of a more immediate “threat” and I wanted her to have sex outside the marriage more frequently. In fact, I wanted her to find a big, strong, virile man with a big cock who would fuck her silly and who’d be able to put me in my place if I complained! Within a few months, Karen started dating in our home town. Soon she had a lover who was just such a man as I fantasized, a big macho guy named Wade who could fuck her into ecstasy. Wade fucks Karen several times a week. Nothing makes me hotter than the thought of Karen’s pussy stretching around Wade’s big cock.

I’m not happy with how it started, but I’m very happy with how it ended. The amazing thing is, just like you said, cuckolds often make the happiest, most loving husbands. Karen loves being pursued by men and loves feeling desirable and sexy, but she also has a loving husband at the same time. If it were up to me, this would become a normal part of marriage. I think many, many couples would be happy if the wife were free to date other men. I think once men are made to accept it, they’ll treat their wives like queens.

Thanks for sharing your story, Rod! That’s amazing, and I couldn’t agree more.

David :: Feb.17.2011 :: Advice, Hot Wives, Wife Sharing :: No Comments »

I get asked this all the time:

How can I get my wife interested in this lifestyle?

As I’ve tried to explain again and again, there is no easy answer to this. Every time I get that question in my email inbox, I mutter under my breath, “you probably won’t.” The odds certainly aren’t on your side.

If your wife is eager and willing to indulge living out fantasies in general, then breaching the subject to her is probably not going to be that hard to do. If she’s not shown much in the way of wanting to even try the smallest kind of experimentation, you’re going to have a tough row to hoe. Who knows, until you ask? Often I think that guys that are struggling with how to bring up the idea, might struggle with how to bring up other things in their relationship. But I digress.

Getting her to finally decide to try it for real just might prove to be one of the hardest things you’ll do in your sex life (though one of the most fun, in my opinion). It’s one thing to want to experiment with sex toys and costumes in the bedroom, it’s quite another to be willing to invite a third party into there.

However, it might not be so hard to get your wife to indulge in a little cuckold fantasy roleplaying. Allie and I do this all the time, for several reasons. The biggest reason is that it’s easy and spontaneous and you can do it anytime, even outside the bedroom. The easiest cuckold roleplay is something I’ll just call “confronting the cheating wife.” Here’s how it usually goes down for us.

Since we’ve already established cuckolding and hot wife play as a pretty major part of our sexual toy box, I don’t have to do much to set it up for Allie to get started with this roleplay. Your results may vary, since you’ll probably want to establish some ground rules with your partner in advance, particularly on where the emotional and subject matter boundaries are. Negotiating these parameters with your significant other in advance can be part of the fun. Don’t forget this step though. You’ll be glad you did, and sorry if you didn’t when you say or do something offensive to your wife, or vice-versa. Trust me.

Anyway, here’s how a typical roleplaying session starts for us. If Allie has an early morning chiropractor appointment; an evening hair or spa appointment; or something that is going to take her out of the house for an hour or two, I’ll text message her phone something to the extent of “You don’t have to cover it up, I know you’re not at the chiro.” That’s her cue then, if she decides she wants to play along, to demurely reply, “Hmmmm…I don’t know what you’re talking about. ;)” Or something to that effect. If she decides she’s really in the mood, then I might get a “You’re right,” or “Leave me alone, will you? I’m busy sucking cock.”

The gag is that she never tells me for sure when she gets home.

Of course, it’s not always limited to just text messaging. Sometimes when she gets home, I’ll make a comment to her that it looks like she pulled her clothes on extra fast, or how did her hair get so messed up, or even that she smells like she’s had another man on her.

What makes this kind of play hot is when you use it later in the evening in bed. After all the texting and sexy comments during the day, at night is when you ask her to go over all the “things she did” earlier, and that it’s okay with you. When I’m going down on her, I like to tell her “it tastes like you’ve been fucked today” or “does your boyfriend have a big cock?”

To which, she always replies “yes.” And it always drives me nuts.

See? It’s an easy way of getting the conversation started–if only through light roleplay. For most couples, this is more than you’ll every really want to tackle. And for those couples that want to try to make these fantasies a reality, it’s a great place to start the journey.

David :: Oct.22.2008 :: Advice, Cuckolds, Hot Wives :: 4 Comments »

You guys left all kinds of great advice and stories of your experiences when I asked for feedback about chastity devices. Thanks so much!

Here are some of the highlights of what you said in email:

Ruby writes:

I bought a CB6000 for my husband. It’s great to play with, but we don’t really use it for long periods of time. I have him put it on when I want him to focus on getting his work done on the computer and not get distracted by looking at pictures of me having sex and masturbating. It does wonders for keeping his attention on the task at hand.

hub4ck writes:

Sometimes I wear it all day long at work and the fun goes all day with sexy text and phone calls. I have worn it for 3-4 days all day and night a couple of times. It’s fun to get all worked up for days on end and not be able to get “relief”, my only thoughts are to satisfy her, I just focus all that locked up sexual energy into orally pleasing her. Of course I want satisfaction, but I don’t get it and the headgame goes on for another day.

Little Man P writes:

Finally, i have not worn my device long enough for a true behavioral change to occur (i wish!). My wife is too sensitive to my pain to allow that to occur. However, I believe that with prolonged wear, the male will have to alter his thought patterns to eliminate painful semi-erections and manage his inner arousal. Behavior modification is a wonderful and powerful thing!

Thanks for the great email everyone! I’d love to hear more about your experiences and how you incorporate it into your fantasy (or real life) play.

David :: Jun.30.2008 :: Advice, Chastity, Cuckolds, Sex Toys :: 2 Comments »

I monitor Craigslist personals pretty frequently for well-written ads by couples or single men interested in this lifestyle. They’re few and far between, believe me. I’m all for getting to the point, but most of the ads out there are not only too short, they are just mindless and unappealing.

Every now and then, a thoughtful one worthy to share with the group comes through my feed reader. Here’s one from a single man in the Chicago suburbs. Men, take note: this is a great example of how to write an ad that will get noticed. Craigslist ads expire quickly, so here’s a reprint:

Are You A Couple Curious About Cuckolding? – m4mw (Western Surburbs)
Date: 2008-06-22, 7:27AM CDT

Cuckolding is not for everyone.

But for those couples lucky enough to have a strong marriage, a desire for white-hot sexual play, and a husband who has that special gene that turns him on when his loved one is taken by another, this can be the ultimate adventure.

I am seeking such a couple to develop a cuck relationship. This happens one excruciatingly erotic step at a time, as the powerful sexual energy of cuckolding draws on the well of the mind to explode into the physical play. What all this means to the cuckold is as powerful as what is actually done by his wife.

This would involve me dating the wife, who has her pleasure at her discretion, and controls how much she tells her husband, allows him to participate, and requires him to support her. Rules can be developed, usually ones that make the cuck very aroused, and the lovers smile.

I am not seeking an invitation just to have me come over and have sex with the wife in front of the husband (although this may indeed happen in cuckolding). Often this is arranged by the husband, who is in charge, lining up a lay for the wife. That’s just swinging, which is fun, but not what I’m seeking. Cuckolding is an intense relationship adjustment between husband and wife in which she is in control and she has her pleasure with another at her whim, while controlling the husband’s pleasure with her.

As the lover, I enjoy the wife in a special way, and enjoy participating to some degree. I’m very creative and enjoy helping the wife sexually torture her husband with our relationship … torture in the good sense, of course, that he is hard, hyperventilating and in agony waiting for the chance to have some relief with her.

Experience is not necessary. Sincerity and willingness to explore safely and sanely is. As always, this must be 100 percent discreet. I very much prefer couples who are emotionally mature and have a good relationship and good personalities.

It is a given that if the husband is not a cuck, he will not be convinced to do so and this will almost never happen. The wife can be convinced to participate in time, given a stepwise development. But a cuck is almost born, not made. There are many men who secretly are deeply aroused at the thought of their wives truly enjoying another man to the exclusion of the husband’s intimate needs. As with many forms of D/s and other sexual adventures, this becomes a paradox: The prime determinant of cuckolding is the cuck, who ultimately has the least power and sometimes the greatest erotic experience. However, this is also so hot that this notice should probably also be in the m4w section as well.

If this is interesting to you, drop me a line and we’ll chat. You don’t have to be married and you don’t have to live nearby. Because this involves a great deal of verbal / relational play as well as realtime dating, this could be done at some distance.

David :: Jun.26.2008 :: Advice, Craigslist, Cuckolds, Personals :: 4 Comments »

I’m interested in learning more about other peoples’ experiences, cuckold or not, with different male chastity devices, particularly with a CB-6000 chastity cage. If you have any first-hand experience with this, or other similar male chastity devices, I’d love to hear from you. I’m not saying I’m looking for one–I’m just saying I’m interested in learning more. Please send me an email, or post some thoughts in the comments.

David :: Jun.20.2008 :: Advice, Chastity, Cuckolds, David :: 10 Comments »

Scott, husband of the beautiful new hot wife Anna, recently sent me a series of her photos to share with the readers here. He is very proud of her, and is coming to grips with the thought of her dating other men. She’s just started to date other men–and he couldn’t be more thrilled.

Scott does have a major issue though, and that’s jealousy. I can totally relate, but as I’ve covered a few times here (and here), it’s possible to overcome and enjoy it immensely–as long as you recognize it and deal with it.

He writes:

She’s trying to see her guy tonight. I’m still struggling with jealously. She’s told me how much she likes to fuck him. He’s more dominant than I am. She says that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like having sex with me, but she likes the balance since I tend to be submissive to her. And she doesn’t want me to be more dominant, because that’s not me. So I’m trying not to take that as an insult.

So anyway, she said if you want to post one or all of her pics, feel free to do so. She wants to read the comments.

Anna recently lost 65 pounds and is feeling great about herself. She gets attention, which is something she thrives on. We’ve fucked more this year than we have in the past 5 years.

And by looking over these photos, it looks like Scott has more than a few reasons to be jealous. Anna is just hot! I don’t know about you, but I’d fuck her too!

So…please post your thoughts to Scott in the comments about how he might best learn to deal with his growing cuckold jealousy. Also, to you fellow cucks in the audience, please tell him what you do at home waiting for your wife to return from a date. He could use the advice.

David :: May.29.2008 :: Advice, Anna, Hot Wives, Photos :: 6 Comments »

A lot of you have been emailing me privately over the past week or so, since I started to talk more about how Allie has a new lover in her life. Most of your questions have been, more or less, about how does it feel?

Tom asks:

How does it feel to be a cuckold now, David?

Jason asks:

What’s been going through your mind now that Allie is fucking again?

The truth is, I couldn’t feel better. But the feeling, is indeed, jealousy. How can I reconcile the two, you might ask?

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, as you can imagine. Why would I enjoy feeling jealous? I wrote a memorable post on cuckold jealousy last year, but now I’m still dealing with my own personal issues.

Time and time again, I’ve counseled readers privately with their own feelings of jealousy as they explore their own cuckold / hotwife experiences and fantasies. I can attest that I had kind of forgotten how particularly powerful they can be. What is it about jealousy that could possibly be enjoyable though?

So, I started thinking about why people might enjoy other kinds of fetishes. You know, like spanking, or water sports, or extreme humiliation. Of course, there are tons of reasons why people might be into whatever fetish they crave, so I’m not even going to attempt to try to generalize them all.

One thing got me thinking though. Fetishes do generate incredible emotional responses, some we might classify as good, and some we might call bad. But all of them are very powerful emotions. It could be, that for some people, the raw power of a particular emotion–even something we might at first consider bad or harmful, could become a turn on. Just like the person that enjoys being spanked–and begins to get off on the pain of it–a person could begin to be turned on by the feeling of jealousy.

So, watching my hot wife get fucked, or, as in the case so far with Mark, hearing about her getting fucked stirs up some incredible pangs of jealousy, not to mention some incredibly hot views. And that jealousy, in turn, drives my passion for Allie.

There are other reactions I have in addition, sure. I love seeing her being a slut, and I love watching her in action. I love the buildup to her leaving on a date, and I love the play-by-play I get when she gets home. And there are other perks as well.

What do you think? Think I might be on to something? Post your thoughts in the comments and I’ll try to keep up with the conversation.

David :: Apr.30.2008 :: Advice, Allie, Cuckolds, David, Hot Wives, Wife Sharing :: 9 Comments »

I’d like to introduce a couple I had the pleasure of befriending online recently. Please meet Carol, a thirty-something hot wife from the Flint, Michigan area, and her loving cuckold husband Mike.

Carol is currently looking for new men to play with, while her husband watches. They’ve been having a lot of trouble finding prospective dates in their area–and the men that they’ve tried to meet have either 1) flaked out on them, 2) not been able to hold an intelligent conversation or 3) came across as too eager or too hyper.

As you can see in her photo, Carol has ample curves and a great set of 38-D tits. She has few limits–and her cuckold hubby is eager to watch or join in, depending on the situation.

Carol explained to me a phenomenon she hopes to avoid with her I’ve decided to coin The Zombie Factor. (Carol’s words, not mine. LOL)

Simply put, The Zombie Factor is a humorous trance-like state many of her dates have found themselves in soon after she’s met them in public for the first time, be it at a bar, restaurant, coffee shop or similar place. The Zombie Factor is typically characterized by excessive staring at a woman’s breasts and cleavage, forgetting how to talk (or only wishing to talk about sex), or seeming to be singularly focused on jumping into the sack with her as quickly as possible. You know…essentially acting as a mindless, drooling zombie. (“BRAAAAIIIINNNNSSSS…”)

Not that Carol doesn’t enjoy you staring at her ample cleavage or wanting to get her into bed. Quite the contrary. However, she’s tired of being treated as a piece of meat by mindless guys that seem to have a one-track focus. She doesn’t need to be seduced or wooed (though that would be nice). She would though like a guy that can at least carry on a decent, smart conversation, and is willing to talk about other stuff than just hotwives and cuckolds.

So…in a nutshell, that’s the Zombie Factor. I think all of us involved in a hotwife couple have experienced it before. You zombies out there (and you know who you are) now know what you need to work on. :)

If you’re in or around the Flint, Michigan area, and would be interested in meeting Carol and her cuckold Mike, please send us an email here to the blog (the address in in the left-hand sidebar), and I will pass your information on to them. She’s hoping to meet potential dates via the blog here. You know the drill though guys, act like you’ve been there. And send photos you’d share with your mom, okay? There’s a time and place for cock pictures, and the first introduction isn’t it.

If you like what you see, please say so in the comments. I’m sure that Carol could be convinced to share more pictures in the future.

David :: Mar.02.2008 :: Advice, Carol, Cuckolds, Hot Wives, Personals :: 5 Comments »

I get tons of email every week asking variations of this same question. They go something like this:

• How can I convince my shy wife to sleep with other men?
• Do you know the easiest way to get my wife to try cuckolding me?
• What’s the easiest way to tell my wife that I want her to fuck other men in front of me?
• Can you help me figure out the best way to bring the concept of hotwives up to my wife?

(sigh) Well, I’ve tried time and time again to answer this question for literally dozens (if not hundreds by now) of men. There’s no easy answer, and no two wives, nor marriages, are the same.

So, I’m turning this question back to you, dear readers. What would you say? Help me build a good answer to this stalwart FAQ and make a great resource for all the enthusiastic, yet confused and timid husbands out there that are ready and willing for their wives to be as ready and willing as they are. Please post your thoughts in the comments!

David :: Feb.07.2008 :: Advice, Cuckolds, Hot Wives :: 14 Comments »

Joe, a 22-year old stud, writes:

I’m wondering if you might give me some advice. I’m meeting a couple tonight for the first time. I’d like to make things go smoothly, but the husband is having some pangs of jealousy leading up to it. It’s their first time ever doing this, and even though we’re planning of more of a MFM threesome encounter, rather than cuckolding him in front of his hot wife. I’m worried about pissing him off. I just wanted to ask what you thought the best approach would be when I first meet them for drinks at a restaurant tonight. Do you think I should be somewhat aggressive and play with her under the table, or should I tone it down?

Well, hopefully you’ve already reviewed our advice for single men. In my opinion, you should always start off as nothing but respectful. Be your charming, non-threatening self, as if you were on a first date with a girl, with absolutely no expectations of sex. No doubt you can be a little flirty with them. However, ask for permission before getting too “hands on.” It never hurts to ask before your hands begin to wander, and a little politeness will go a long way. Odds are, they’re as nervous as you are.

But, remember this date is something they want as well. You’re their fantasy as much as they are yours. So, maybe you could try to find an ice breaker that will allow you to lead them into the kind of encounter that you both desire.

And for heaven’s sake, don’t forget to be complimentary of his wife, to both of them.

Readers, what other advice do you have for Joe on his date tonight? Post your thoughts in the comments.

David :: Nov.16.2007 :: Advice, Cuckolds, Hot Wives, Threesomes :: 11 Comments »