Chat transcript: January 20, 2005
Allie: Hiya guys…!
nirvanakurt3: Hi Allie, hows it going tonight?
Allie: Pretty good here. How about you all…?
Allie: It’s snowing!
Allie: Or at least, it was a little while ago.
nirvanakurt3: Hehe ya
etchi_man: yeah
Allie: I don’t know about you all, but I’m ready for warmer weather.
nirvanakurt3: I know I love winter time, its so relaxing
wyrick26: It was 45 in missouri
etchi_man: i hear that
wisguy513: hello
Allie: I love winter for just a little bit…long enough to get my sweaters out…but I get tired of the sloppy driving conditions really quick.
lindyhopdc: ugh, the snow in DC yesterday made everything come to a screeching halt
Allie: Ugh, Lindy…I bet.
Allie: Anyway…I’m glad a few of you could brave the winter weather to join me in the chat.
lindyhopdc: 90 minutes to go 7 miles
Allie: Ick.
wyrick26: Plus most of D.C. is shut down so it makes it slower
Allie: Anyway…how about a little Q & A for a little while, before the T & A? Sound O K?
wisguy513: who does the site for you? it looks professional.
Allie: My hubby David does all the site stuff.
Allie: We use Blogger to do the front page updates…but a lot of the custom stuff was done by him.
wisguy513: of course the material makes it hard to do a bad job
jorez: I love the layout, very easy to navigate
Allie: We wanted to keep the site as simple as possible.
wisguy513: tell david i need to be able to navigate with only 1 hand…
jorez: Thats good, I can use 1 hand to move around
Allie: I know he wants to add more stuff–but it’s a fine line between classy looking and too cluttered.
wyrick26: Allie what is your favorite place in vegas?
Allie: Hmmmm…Good question, Wyrick.
Allie: The Bellagio is fun.
Allie: David has been to Vegas much more than me. I’ve only been twice.
wisguy513: i’ll be out there in march with some buddies - when are you going next?
Allie: We were hoping to get out later this spring or early summer.
wyrick26: yeah that is a great place mine is the Luxor since I am an archaeologist lol
Allie: We always have a good time…how could you not?
Tommy: Allie, have you been to PSC in Newport any? I have been twice. Not very choice place actually. Would love to see that smiling face.
Allie: We haven’t been to PSC. In fact, we generally don’t do the swinger clubs around here.
Allie: We’ve been spoiled by a great club in Nashville that is worth the drive.
Allie: Plus, there’s a club in New Orleans that we fell in love with.
etchi_man: what kind of night spots do you like around cincy? I’ve been stuck around main street lately
Allie: Etchi, we’re basically homebodies.
Allie: We don’t do nightclubs very often.
Allie: Mostly, just go out to dinner. Sometimes we might go to a nightspot–but it’s rare.
wyrick26: how can single male explore the world of swinging?
cincy_mass: I think joining a site like swappernet is great for single males
Allie: Swappernet is good.
Tommy: Swappernet is awesome.
Allie: My advice for single guys is to work more on how you present yourself via email and chatting.
Allie: If we’ve seen one hard cock pic, we’ve seen em all…you know what I mean?
cincy_mass: face pics are key I think
Allie: They really are key.
Allie: Plus…don’t tell me all your sexual fetishes, wants and needs at the very first introductory email…I’d rather hear about you the person, not you the sex god.
Tommy: Be thoughtful, considerate. Do not ignore the husband either. Establish rapport with him too.
Allie: (Very good point, Tommy — D.)
Allie: Remember…you’ve got to get me comfortable enough with your email that I’d want to talk to you on the phone or in person.
Allie: A cock pic isn’t going to break the ice.
etchi_man: lol
cincy_mass: this may not be popular, but bi couples are often more interested in single males also
Allie: That’s true.
cincy_mass: so if you’re open to that it really helps
Allie: You’d be surprised how many couples are interested in single men though, guys.
wyrick26: I bet there few
cincy_mass: yes, but there are SO many men to choose from lol
Allie: That’s true…so you have to work on setting yourself apart.
Allie: Getting back to the swing club issue for a minute…
Allie: If you’re a single guy at the swing club…don’t be afraid to approach us couples, guys! Just be polite, and remember no means no.
Tommy: that is always a little intimidating. It’s a bit of ‘too good to be true’.
cincy_mass: that can be pretty intimidating though
Allie: I know. But again…you never know which couple is there so the wife can get gangbanged.
Tommy: How often do you have get togethers allie? if that is not too personal?
Allie: We usually have a meet and greets every few months to get a chance to meet some of the guys we’ve been chatting with for a while.
Allie: Always in a public place, like in a hotel bar or something.
Allie: It’s just a chance to get to mingle.
Allie: As well as a way to get to see what the guys are like and if we’re really interested after meeting them face to face.
Allie: But you want a place too where you can talk a little without too many distractions.
cincy_mass: Allie, does David usually like to join in meetings or just watch?
Allie: David is as involved as everyone else. He wants to get to meet everyone also.
cincy_mass: I mean, does he play also or watch?
Allie: Oh…you mean MEETINGS.
Allie: lol
Allie: He does both…depends on what mood he’s in. Generally he watches for a little while…then joins in.
Allie: And he photographs…lots and lots of pictures for posterity.
etchi_man: any motivating factors in putting your pics online? or reservations in doing so?
Allie: Well, it’s exhibitionist for one, etchi.
Allie: As far as reservations for putting photos up…we try to keep them discreet and blurred.
Allie: And we won’t keep them up forever.
Tommy: How long have you been in the lifestayle allie? Who initiated it, how? The internet opened me up to soooo many other facets of sex in general.
Allie: We’ve been doing this since October 2001.
Cincy_Guy:is being photographed a requirement of getting together?
Allie: Well, we usually select men that are comfortable with photos. We don’t publish faces in our photos however.
Tommy: how was it initiated allie? Pillow talk, viewing sites?
Allie: Pillow talk, mostly. It was a mutual fantasy.
wyrick26: can you explain the term hotwife?
Allie: Hotwives are an emerging fetish. Basically, they are married women that have sex with other men with their husband’s consent…mostly while he’s watching or playing also.
Allie: There’s a page on the site that talks about hotwives in great detail.
wyrick26: I will take a look
Allie: http://www.hotwivesonline.com/allie/hotwife.asp
Tommy: My next wife will definantely be a hotwife. I totally get off on her being pleased. Do you view that as a submissive trait in men allie? some females do. I am not sub in any way, but love my lover with others too.
Allie: A lot of submissive men are into it. That’s not the case with us however.
Tommy: Ha. Seriously, I think it is a gift. I think there is so much trust there to permit it, to condone it. It is an act of love as i see it.
wyrick26: I agree
Allie: That’s what we think also.
wyrick26: It takes a great deal of trust I bet it makes your marriage very hot
Tommy: A beautiful, fun, sharing thing. I am not being rude, just curious. would you define david, or some of us as voyeurs, that we like to watch?
cincy_mass: we’re all voyeurs
Allie: He’s definitely into watching.
Tommy: your body is just so perfect for lots of pleasure allie! i adore it. know wonder he loves watching. It is perfect.
Allie: Well, thanks Tommy.
Allie: We really enjoy putting all the photos up for all to see.
etchi_man: and we thank you both for doing so
cincy_mass: We all love them too, Allie
Tommy: You’re welcome, it’s mostly you’re always smiling though. That’s contagious and warming, and disarming as hell.
Allie: Well…I wouldn’t do it if it wasn’t fun.
cincy_mass: lol, how’s it feel to have a fanclub, Allie?
Allie: LOL That’s what it feels like sometimes, cincy_mass.
cincy_mass: anyone ever run into you in person and make a scene?
Allie: No, not yet.
Tommy: is your appetite sometimes voracious allie ? as in many many partners, or a comfy MMF more manageable?
cincy_mass: do you worry about seeing people in public?
Allie: We like 3somes, or even big groups. The most guys I’ve taken on at once has been 3. However, I have been in 8 and 10 person orgies with couples before.
Allie: Thanks jared!
jared4199:how do i get into the cicrle of friends?
Allie: Well, the best way to get to meet us…are you ready?
jared4199:yes i am
Allie: LOL
cincy_mass: notepad is out
Allie: The best way to get to meet us is to send us a lengthy introductory email. Tell us about you, what you like to do (non sexual and sexual), and what you’d like to do. A non-nude pic will go a long way.
Allie: We also prefer men that are between the ages of 25 and 40. We DO make exceptions to this rule…but it’s on a case-by-case basis.
wyrick26: define lengthy?
Allie: It’s not a term paper.
Allie: But it is definitely your best shot at making a first impression.
cincy_mass: Allie, why don’t you allow mail from single men on swappernet?
Allie: Occassionaly we’ll open the floodgates to mail from single guys…like on a special weekend or something…but then we end up getting 40 or 50 emails, and we can’t send a proper reply to them all.
Allie: Also…we want to know if you’re married or not when you email us. We don’t mind if you are–but we want to know up front. If we find out later that you are, and you didn’t tell us…then all bets are off.
Tommy: what makes you laugh quickest allie? what on God’s earthwould be the best way to express how desirable you are?
Allie: Hmmmm…fart jokes.
Tommy: HA!
Allie: That gets a quick laugh.
Allie: Seriously. It’s a long-running inside joke around here.
Allie: Gentlemen…David is informing me that the camera is a no-go for tonight.
Allie: He’s been sitting here trying to get Yahoo to access it, and Yahoo won’t have it for some reason.
Allie: We’ve been having Yahoo trouble all evening. There are about 4 guys stranded outside the chat room that can’t get our invites to come in.
jared4199:sucks to be them
Allie: I think they’re having chat and IM problems tonight.
Allie: At any rate…if you’ll take a rain check–I promise to have another chat soon — not another month long wait this time.
Allie: We’ll post another (edited) transcript of the chat soon.
lindyhopdc: thanks allie!
jared4199:bye allie thanks
Allie: Good night guys! Thanks for chatting with us!
Allie: xoxoxox
The transcript was edited for clarity and privacy.
