Advice for Single Men
Join an online swinger personals or lifestyle site and communicate with couples looking for single guys. Post a full face photo or, if you can’t do that, download a “private” photo that you can exchange with a couple that expresses an interest.
Be very respectful, not only of them but also of their boundaries. Remember, you are the third party. If it is a truly secure couple that are in love with each other, you are there for their enjoyment and pleasure. That’s not to say that you aren’t expected to enjoy yourself too. They should be as respectful to you as you are to them.
Be fair and willing to pick up your share of the expenses if, say, you go to a hotel room or a bar. You must be immaculately clean, well groomed, and very mannerly.
By all means, do not be pushy. Do not become emotionally attached, or make calls to the wife without the husband’s full knowledge and approval.
Show up when agreed to. Without an ironclad excuse (and I can’t think of any off the top of my head that would qualify), you won’t get a second chance with us (and I would imagine with most couples). There are a million single guys who are available.
If you have a threesome with another couple, don’t come across as the cock of the walk. Never lose sight of the fact that you are simply the cock. This is not to demean you, but be mindful of the role that you are playing and where you fit into the relationship with the other couple.
You must be absolutely discrete. This means, you can’t brag to your friends about the couple you are “scoring” with. Discretion is the hallmark of this lifestyle.
Remember that “NO MEANS NO!” No if’s, and’s or but’s. Period. End of discussion. Regardless of how much you may have been intimate with this couple, if either party says no for any reason, stop immediately. This sword cuts both ways as well. You should never be expected to do anything that you don’t want to do.
Be yourself. Never put on airs, or try to be someone you are not. People can see right through this and, even if you fool a couple early on, eventually they will see through you.
Compliment the woman. Tell her how hot, beautiful and sexy she is. Don’t overlook the husband’s ego either. This doesn’t mean you have to be phony, just be honest. But, afterall, you did approach this couple because there was some attraction. Others may disagree, but if you’re just looking to get laid, this will leave many couples, us included, stone cold. Of course, sex is the key reason for people being in this lifestyle, but there are many other reasons people engage in this lifestyle including the desire to have fun and make new friends.
And, finally, prepare yourself for a lot of rejection. This again is nothing against you. It’s just as you said, there are lots of single guys out there competing with you. The smartest thing to do when a couple says they are not interested is to write back and say something nice and friendly, such as “Let me know if you change your mind.)
There is a plethora….nay…a veritable cornucopia of married women out there dying for a “hot” date with a guy who will make them perform the way they dream about.
Half the time, those affairs will turn into a cuckold tryst with hubby watching, sometimes participating with his mouth especially cleaning his cute wife’s swollen vulva leaking the lover’s semen.
Personally, I like to have him suck me off in front of ‘her’. I’ve found that the eager wife loves watching her hubby submit orally to her lover, especially, if lover MAKES hubby suck it…LOL!
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Thank you for your well thought advice. I am trying to find good men to date my very lovely hot wife . she hates liars !! We seam to have found a ton of this type we don’t care if they are married or what ever as long as they have the right equipment .this is the one time to be completely honest and thy fuck it up by a lie. where to look in Portland Oregon
I had no knowledge of the cuckold lifestyle and culture until about 2 months ago and now I know that it is for me. There have been a few very good articles that I read ~ but then when I found the direction (link) to this website, via OK Cupid, I really made my decision!
This would be perfect for me, as a cuck.
Thank you so much for all your documentation.
- Jim
thank you! I think everything you posted allie is very helpful.
My wife is older(past 55)& looks like a traditional Grandmother(heavy)-But she continues to tell me to find boyfriends for her!
We have been on quite a # of sites-BUT it seems that single guys would rather do without than have anyone find out that they are doing a (Fat) old lady!
“FAT” old ladies have the experiance¬ uptight-so do know(&happy to teach) what they know to the guys–If the guys wer’nt so uptight!
Wonder what we can do to make more friends?
Alice&cuckhold Don London Ont.