I get asked this all the time:
How can I get my wife interested in this lifestyle?
As I’ve tried to explain again and again, there is no easy answer to this. Every time I get that question in my email inbox, I mutter under my breath, “you probably won’t.” The odds certainly aren’t on your side.
If your wife is eager and willing to indulge living out fantasies in general, then breaching the subject to her is probably not going to be that hard to do. If she’s not shown much in the way of wanting to even try the smallest kind of experimentation, you’re going to have a tough row to hoe. Who knows, until you ask? Often I think that guys that are struggling with how to bring up the idea, might struggle with how to bring up other things in their relationship. But I digress.
Getting her to finally decide to try it for real just might prove to be one of the hardest things you’ll do in your sex life (though one of the most fun, in my opinion). It’s one thing to want to experiment with sex toys and costumes in the bedroom, it’s quite another to be willing to invite a third party into there.
However, it might not be so hard to get your wife to indulge in a little cuckold fantasy roleplaying. Allie and I do this all the time, for several reasons. The biggest reason is that it’s easy and spontaneous and you can do it anytime, even outside the bedroom. The easiest cuckold roleplay is something I’ll just call “confronting the cheating wife.” Here’s how it usually goes down for us.
Since we’ve already established cuckolding and hot wife play as a pretty major part of our sexual toy box, I don’t have to do much to set it up for Allie to get started with this roleplay. Your results may vary, since you’ll probably want to establish some ground rules with your partner in advance, particularly on where the emotional and subject matter boundaries are. Negotiating these parameters with your significant other in advance can be part of the fun. Don’t forget this step though. You’ll be glad you did, and sorry if you didn’t when you say or do something offensive to your wife, or vice-versa. Trust me.
Anyway, here’s how a typical roleplaying session starts for us. If Allie has an early morning chiropractor appointment; an evening hair or spa appointment; or something that is going to take her out of the house for an hour or two, I’ll text message her phone something to the extent of “You don’t have to cover it up, I know you’re not at the chiro.” That’s her cue then, if she decides she wants to play along, to demurely reply, “Hmmmm…I don’t know what you’re talking about. ;)” Or something to that effect. If she decides she’s really in the mood, then I might get a “You’re right,” or “Leave me alone, will you? I’m busy sucking cock.”
The gag is that she never tells me for sure when she gets home.
Of course, it’s not always limited to just text messaging. Sometimes when she gets home, I’ll make a comment to her that it looks like she pulled her clothes on extra fast, or how did her hair get so messed up, or even that she smells like she’s had another man on her.
What makes this kind of play hot is when you use it later in the evening in bed. After all the texting and sexy comments during the day, at night is when you ask her to go over all the “things she did” earlier, and that it’s okay with you. When I’m going down on her, I like to tell her “it tastes like you’ve been fucked today” or “does your boyfriend have a big cock?”
To which, she always replies “yes.” And it always drives me nuts.
See? It’s an easy way of getting the conversation started–if only through light roleplay. For most couples, this is more than you’ll every really want to tackle. And for those couples that want to try to make these fantasies a reality, it’s a great place to start the journey.