About 4 years after we were married we went for a seaside holiday on the Med. Away from the constraints of home a woman’s libido comes to the fore and takes over. Guys were ogling her and coming on to her. She loved it. One guy she particularly fancied. I challenged her to get a date with him. She dithered but I told her that for me it would be sexy like her confession of past boyfriends. She allowed herself to be persuaded.

She had a wonderful time on that date and told all in detail.

It was a great holiday. I like her to behave at home but since then she will usually have an adventure when we’re away.

She then introduced the idea to my wife. and set up a lunch date with a pair of college kids. She ws worried at first that I would be annoyed, but when I aid that I expected it to happen, all was open.

Now she has a couple of steady lovers. The great thing is that I get all the sex I want and so does she.

My ex and I had a relationship in which she would sleep with other guys and then come home and tell me all of the dirty details. (Unfortunately, the marriage ended for unrelated reasons.)

Before she and I started dating, I had already mentioned that I was turned on by the thought of my wife/gf sleeping with other men, and she said she was turned on by the idea too. By choice, I have spent quite a few years not being in a relationship. However, I have decided that if and when I ever do get into a relationship again, it will be a similar relationship. It will be something she and I will talk about and agree to before we get into a relationship.

Now, the tough part is finding the right woman!

I have extensively investigated the world of cuckolding, and actually lost a marriage due to the desire. It is of my opinion that ALOT of men have the fantasy of seeing their wife or significant other with another man. Now, if you are married then that is another issue, as cuckolding is very much a male driven desire for it to work. Convincing a man is harder than convincing a woman in my opinion. My words of encouragement to you is that there are many men out there who are very interested in finding a partner who is open to this sort of lifestyle/sexstyle. The challenge for a woman such as yourself is to find one who is in it for the love of his wife and not to get off. Case in point, cuckolding porn ends once the single male has climaxed. Reality does not end once the cuck gets off. The bull is still there, the play is still going on. That can be an overwhelming transition to many “wannabe” cuckolds. My bottom line is that if you are truely content on finding a man to cuckold or be in a open relationship, the opportunities are bountiful for women. Alot of guys want to be cuckolded that much, now it is all about weeding out the users from the authentic ones.

As for the idea of how to get a wife to cuckold, here is my observation. Some wives just won’t do it. There is a set transition for the ones who are open. My advice is to create an open dialogue. Now your wife may be blown away by your dark little secret, but at least she knows what you want. Manipulating her or tricking her into it (like many advertise is possible on cuckolding sites) WILL NEVER HAPPEN. The best case scenario is she is willing to see where that road travels with you, and opens up to teasing you or role playing. After that, perhaps it will transition into cuckolding once she feels 100% secure that the relationship is real and that the man isn’t going to freak out once she acts on his supposed desire. The best thing a potential cuckold can do is build up the self-perception of his wife. Woman, to generalize, have alot of body issues. Getting them to feel sexy and secure while authentically appreciating her and encouraging her about her beauty and how desireable she is must happen. The key word is AUTHENTIC. If it is fake or comes off as the man wanting her to shoot some porno or do something below her standards, game over. Bottom line. Be open and honest about what you want. Then work towards that goal by showing your wife you love her (even if she won’t cuckold you, your wife deserves for you to adore her), and perhaps promoting some of the action such as buying her sexy clothing or underwear. Take an active approach. Openess, honest, authenticity. Then pray she is willing to take you at face value for your request.

In my own case, my wife had, with my encouragement, a lover several years ago and was contemplating taking others when a serious illness curtailed all activities. But I don’t think I “convinced her to become a hot wife” so much as convinced her that I really loved her and still wanted her to have other sex partners. She decided when to actualize the fantasy.

Like others have said, communication and mutual understanding are critical. My wife has recovered and her interest in sex is increasing – and she’s intimated that taking another lover is not out of the question – but not yet. She sometimes gets annoyed if I make suggestive, joking comments; other times, she jokes along with me, and sometimes even initiates such verbal play. But each step has to be discussed and mutually agreed on. No attempted set-ups or such nonsense – that’s the quickest way to destroy a relationship.

Frankly, I’d really like to hear Allie’s views on this subject.