“The Marital Bed” - A cuckold dilemma
From time to time, I hear people talking about the issue of the marital bed and it’s place in cuckold and hotwife relationships. The big question is, “should your wife be with her lover in the same bed where the two of you sleep and make love together as a married couple (if you’re a cuckold that should be so lucky)?” Should a hot wife welcome another man (or men even) that is not her husband into the bed she shares with her husband?
Is their truth to the belief that no place is more sacred to a married couple than their bed? And to “defile” it by the wife screwing another man is blasphemous to that sacred ideal?
It all sounds so, well, so Victorian. Yet, it’s a big deal with a lot of couples out there. I can’t tell you what the right or wrong answer is to this. Every couple is different, and every couple will have their own opinions about what is and is not off limits. I can though tell you how we dealt with it.
Allie and I considered this when we first started swinging with other couples several years ago. Back then, we came to the conclusion that we wouldn’t bring that kind of play into our bedroom. We didn’t mind it happening in our house or guest bedroom, but our bed was going to be reserved for just us.
Every room–every flat surface in our house–was fair game, except our bed.
It didn’t last.
Our king-size bed was the perfect playground for other couples that we invited over for playtime. And our pajama party guests eventually ended up there. It was just the most comfortable place for us all to end up. Yet, playing in there didn’t seem taboo in the sense above–since there were usually more women involved than just Allie, and everyone was having fun equally.
As we started down the road into more hotwife / cuckold encounters, I was hesitant about inviting men into our bed to share my wife. The thought that men were fucking my wife in our bed while I watched played on different dominant and submissive fantasies our minds. Finally, the temptation to indulge those fantasies became too much to bear, and our bed became our venue of choice. I love collapsing asleep after hours of watching her and her boyfriends in the same bed where the act just took place. Or even having to sleep in the guestroom down the hall, while Allie and her lovers fuck throughout the night in our bed.
Still, it’s not always the most convenient venue. You probably don’t want to bring strangers into your bedroom, no matter how hot the fantasy. It’s best to keep the first several intitial encounters in a hotel room or swing club. Men have to gain our trust and friendship before they’re allowed in to the inner sanctum, so to speak. And once they’ve found their way into our bedroom, then the hottest experiences usually occur.
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Posted by David | May. 18, 2007 | Posted in Advice, Cuckolds, Hot Wives | 10 Comments »
Do you two do anything that is reserved just for the two of you or is everything fair game? And since you let other people into the marital bed, does she do anything just for you, or do you just KNOW that you are special to her?
I’d love to sleep down the hall and listen to her climaxing again and again. It really makes you know your place if your not even allowed in the room whilst they get theirs. Even better if your tied up and cannot touch yourself - frustration doesn’t begin to cover it!
@Midwestern City Boy: Of course there’s plenty that’s reserved just for us. This lifestyle is only a small, though important, part of our playtime. Don’t let the site completely fool you. ;) There’s more than meets the eye.
Funny you should mention this, the first time we had a mfm, the first time my wife had another man as a married woman was in our bed. Didn’t really think about it at the time. We had two beds and our 6 mo. daughter was in the other one in another room. So the next logical place was our bed in our bedroom. So that is what we used.
What is funny is that a few years later when she had started to date some and play solo I kind of gulped and had a bit of a shock when she played with the same guy ALONE in our bed. Then I figured I was being kind of silly. We tried to make some things “our” things but it didn’t work. B gets excited and does whatever feels good and what her lover wants if I am there and if she is out with just him. Before her first overnight we had talked about what would be for “US” and we agreed on having sex in the shower or bath tub. Later I find out from an e-mail from her lover (not to me, I was snooping) about how much he had enjoyed making love to her in the shower right after their first little session on the bed!
Yeah it really hurt at the time (both her making love with him in the shower and then not telling me about it, I think she might have even tried to lie about it) but she admits that with the man she goes into a kind of sexual fog and doesn’t alway recall what she has done, just kind of does what feels right and what her lover wants with few if any limits. I’ve come to accept that is the way she is and actually enjoy just how sensual and sexual she is with her lovers.
A bed is a bed. To me it means nothing. It’s like saying a car is so inportant that your partner that is given the ok to play with others can’t play there because it’s the family vehical. It’s a peace of furnitucher and it thrown out just like everything else in this world when it is no longer seen and useful. So why make it something that is off limits for play?
I think that issue is one that has been around awhile. Should or should not is really a issue that every couple has to work out. My wife has had a man come and spend a week here once where I left and only came home to see her when she slipped away for us to meet. She was pretending to be single thus all my stuff was hidden away. It was letting her have her fantasy, and it was hot. In fact when we met up we went to a private area in the park and she was this sultry little tramp and was all over me. When I came home it was awesome she had made me movie of giving him a blow job. The bed sheet was covered in the evidence of how many times he came in her. And I enjoyed eating her pussy in the wet spot from the last fuck. Then when I made love to her with the smell of his cum all over our bed was awesome.
The second time we had the same guy be he thought I was a old friend staying with her for a few weeks using the spare room. We had put in peek holes though the walls, so I watched her get fucked. Then she would sneak out after he fell asleep to give me mine. Once I met her in the bathroom right after he pulled out and got it very fresh indeed.
Does she hold back things that are just ours? Yes, for one thing she really never tells a date any deep things about herself, she gives them the fantasy things of the game she is playing. Two: she will not French kiss them; she barely kisses them at all. Third: she never does anal with anyone but me. Fourth and most important, she has sex with them we make love and there is a great deal of difference between the two things. In fact often she does not have much if any climax with them but always has multiple when we make love. The thrill is not the fuck with the guy, but the making love we do afterwards and the sharing.
So in my book, it can be very hot to use your own bed, but don’t push it, move into it when both people are ready.
There is one party’s wishes that you haven’t considered: The BBC.
Maybe my situation is special because I’m generally a cheating wife but my lovers invariably want to do me in the bed that I share with my husband Bill. Because of the risk involved, I resisted for quite awhile before finally giving in.
It is the utimate turn on for them for me to arrange to fuck me in my own bed. And, now, I confess it is a rush for me as well, though my true excitement comes later when I’m with Bill and know that I’ve fucked another man on the same sheets a few hours before.
Laura
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Agree with above. A bed is a bed. We have had MMF, FMF, foursomes, groups and singles in all the beds in the house
To my wife and I the bed was important when we first began having other men do her at our home. She insisted that the first time she let my best buddy do her , it would take place in our bed and that he would cum in her while I watched. She made much to do about me, her husband, watching her take another mans cum inside her on our own bed.