Hot Wife Allie

Haven’t posted a new pinup cartoon in a few weeks, so I thought I’d share a new one with you guys.  I love the look on Allie’s face when she’s getting plowed from behind.  I think this cartoon does it justice.  What do you think?

David :: May.29.2007 :: Allie, Cartoons, Pinups :: 5 Comments »

From time to time, I hear people talking about the issue of the marital bed and it’s place in cuckold and hotwife relationships. The big question is, “should your wife be with her lover in the same bed where the two of you sleep and make love together as a married couple (if you’re a cuckold that should be so lucky)?” Should a hot wife welcome another man (or men even) that is not her husband into the bed she shares with her husband?

Is their truth to the belief that no place is more sacred to a married couple than their bed? And to “defile” it by the wife screwing another man is blasphemous to that sacred ideal?

It all sounds so, well, so Victorian. Yet, it’s a big deal with a lot of couples out there. I can’t tell you what the right or wrong answer is to this. Every couple is different, and every couple will have their own opinions about what is and is not off limits. I can though tell you how we dealt with it.

Allie and I considered this when we first started swinging with other couples several years ago. Back then, we came to the conclusion that we wouldn’t bring that kind of play into our bedroom. We didn’t mind it happening in our house or guest bedroom, but our bed was going to be reserved for just us.

Every room–every flat surface in our house–was fair game, except our bed.

It didn’t last.

Our king-size bed was the perfect playground for other couples that we invited over for playtime. And our pajama party guests eventually ended up there. It was just the most comfortable place for us all to end up. Yet, playing in there didn’t seem taboo in the sense above–since there were usually more women involved than just Allie, and everyone was having fun equally.

As we started down the road into more hotwife / cuckold encounters, I was hesitant about inviting men into our bed to share my wife. The thought that men were fucking my wife in our bed while I watched played on different dominant and submissive fantasies our minds. Finally, the temptation to indulge those fantasies became too much to bear, and our bed became our venue of choice. I love collapsing asleep after hours of watching her and her boyfriends in the same bed where the act just took place. Or even having to sleep in the guestroom down the hall, while Allie and her lovers fuck throughout the night in our bed.

Still, it’s not always the most convenient venue. You probably don’t want to bring strangers into your bedroom, no matter how hot the fantasy. It’s best to keep the first several intitial encounters in a hotel room or swing club. Men have to gain our trust and friendship before they’re allowed in to the inner sanctum, so to speak. And once they’ve found their way into our bedroom, then the hottest experiences usually occur.

David :: May.18.2007 :: Advice, Cuckolds, Hot Wives :: 10 Comments »

I’ve found yet another installment in my ongoing series of cuckold and hotwife related posts and personals from Craigslist. This is a particularly good one from the City of Brotherly Love, where someone has taken the time to write a great tutorial for wives interested in making their husbands cuckolds. Enjoy!

The perfect husband

Turning your husband into a cuckold can be one of the most rewarding things you ever do. A successfully cuckolded husband will be completely submissive. He will satisfy all your sexual cravings, manage all the mundane chores of your life, allow you to sleep with whomever you wish, and will willingly subject himself to any amount of humiliation you desire.

But be warned, cuckolding can also be one of the most challenging things you ever do. The process is long, complicated, energy consuming, and by no means sure of success. The strain on your marriage will be unbelievable, and it may be weeks or months before you succeed.

This document has been provided to educate women on how to begin the wonderful journey of female domination and to hopefully relieve some of the apprehension that might prevent a woman from ever trying. After reading this it will be clearer that cuckolding your husband is not as hard as it seems, and that accomplishing this feat is more possible than you thought.

The most common reason a women doesn’t cuckold her husband is that she thinks he’ll never go for it - that he’s not the type. This is such a myth that it must be disproved immediately. Many cuckolds begin as ordinary husbands. Your husband may even be as manly as men come, but don’t worry, cuckolding is often a just a matter of helping your hubby discover his submissive side. Take heart in the fact that underneath all his machoness and pride, there is a cock loving wimp that is begging you to force him to do all sorts of nasty things.

First train yourself

Think of cuckolding as an art. For the wife who decides to cuckold her husband, she must have complete mastery of certain skills. Much like a artist making a painting - she must go to school, read, and practice. So like an artist, before you ever begin training your husband, you must first train yourself. You’re about to go on an incredible journey; you want to be prepared, right?

The world of cuckolding is unlike the normal world. It has various rules and customs that are different from everyday life, of which you must be aware. You must immerse yourself in this new culture. To begin, start reading erotic stories that deal with cuckolding. Many women before you have cuckolded their husbands and recorded their experiences. Also many men have written about their decent into female domination. Learn from them. Reading stories will acquaint you to the new world of cuckolding and will prevent you from having to reinvent anything. Beyond stories, you may want to read books on female domination, and buy videos of dominatrixes humiliating men.

You must also train yourself to be sexually independent. If you want to control your husband you need to not need his penis. In the future you will need to deny your husband the pleasures of your body and this will be only possible if you are strong enough to abstain from sex. Sex between you and your hubby is probably pretty vanilla anyway if you’re thinking about cuckolding him, so it shouldn’t be too hard. Masturbate often. Splurge on vibrators, dildos, lotions, clothing, and pornography. Have fun! Visit your local sex shop and ask for ideas. You may also want to think about buying toys that you can also use on your husband once he’s properly trained. The key is whenever you really have the urge for a fucking, train yourself to seek satisfaction from a source other than your husband, i.e. when you’re horny, take out your vibrator.

A good way to help your training along is to change your appearance. Make it your goal to become a hotwife. The prime focus of a hotwife is expressing her sexuality in all manners, from the type of shoes she wears to the way she shaves her pussy. A hotwife wears tight fitting clothes as much as she can. She wears short skirts, perfume, and high-heels all the time. She does her hair and wears makeup daily. At night she wears sexy lingerie. She goes to the gym often. When she goes to the grocery store she doesn’t wear underwear. If you start doing thing like these, not only will you be sending a signal to your husband that you’ve changed, but you’ll be sending a signal to yourself. Because you look like a hotwife, you’ll think you’re a hotwife, and then you’ll be a hotwife! The advantages to being a hotwife are numerous. You’re husband will lust for you much more, even if he doesn’t show it, other men will croon over you (this will increase your confidence), and your sexual energy will increase, all of which you can channel into power.

Also feel free to start flirting. It’s probably been a long time since you’ve flirted with another man, so you’ll need practice. Look men in the eyes and smile. If you drop something in the office, bend over without bending your knees. At night go out with girlfriends that like to party. Make it a goal to flirt with at least one man a day. The key is to increase you’re confidence. Not only will it be very satisfying to know that there are other men out there who are interested in you, but in the back of your mind you can use this knowledge as leverage against your husband.

Beginning

Once you’ve properly educated yourself in the art cuckolding, freed yourself from your husband’s dick, and increased your confidence, it’s time to begin.

The first submission of your husband is the most challenging phase of the process. Even if he wants to be your slave, he will resist. There are many reasons he will do this like gender stereotypes and the years of routine between you, but first and foremost will be that he wants to save-face. Not only can he not admit to you that he wants to be your bitch, but he can’t admit it to himself either. He will never just give you power over him even though he wants to. This would violate his manhood. You need to take it from him - it’s the only way.

During this time, the power in your relationship will be in flux. Neither of you will be sure where the other stands. This uncertainty will be uncomfortable for both of you because it is human nature to order the world. You will have doubts such as, “Am I being too hard on him?” “Was this a good idea?” “Did I ruin our marriage?” These are completely normal thoughts, but you must never share them with your husband. It will have to be your own private burden. His uncertainty will be twice that of yours, so you must be the guiding hand for him. Sharing thoughts of uncertainty will only insert doubt in his mind and show weakness.

Broaching the Subject

You’ll definitely want to let him know what’s going on. If he doesn’t, how can he play along? Remember, you husband wants to be cuckolded. You only need to break the ice. For example:

Has your husband ever mentioned how you’d feel about a threesome, swinging, or anything extramarital? This may be a good place to start if he did.

“Hey honey, remember that time you mentioned having a threesome? Do you still feel the same about it?”

Judge his reaction. His eyes may light up or his heart may start beating faster. He’ll try to hide his excitement of course.

He’ll ask, “Would you really consider it?”

And you can say, “Well I’ve been thinking about it. It might be fun to make some changes.”

or

If you suspect your husband masturbates often, try to catch him in the act. Then you can give him hell.

“Honey, I’ve had it with you! This is the last time I catch you masturbating. It’s disrespectful and disgusting. Things are going to be changing around here!”

These are just a few examples of how to broach cuckolding with your husband. Note the range in ways. Also note cuckolding was never mentioned. At this early stage there is no need to be specific. The only thing you need to be concerned about is the main message: “Things are going to be changing.” Of all the stories you’ve read about wives cuckolding their husbands, choose the method you are most comfortable with.

Being Mean

After you’ve let him know that things will be changing around the house, you have to follow through. Remember, he won’t just give you control, you have to take it from him. Basically you’re going to have to be mean to him. If you were raised right this will probably not be easy for you. You were taught to treat everyone with the same respect you wish to have. This is one of the hardest parts of cuckolding because you’ll be breaking the Golden Rule, but once you get used to it, it becomes natural.

Start by taking aspects of his life away from him. One of the first things you can do is to take is his identity away. For example, feminize your husband’s name; Jack can become Jackie, Dan can become Danielle. Or childize his name; John can become Johnny, Bill can become Billy. You’re main objective is equate him with weakness - historically women and children. On the same lines, you can call him nicknames like, “Little One” or “Tiny.” And refer to his penis as a “dicklet.” This will strike his insecurity with his penis size, and if he never had an insecurity, it will create one.

Also don’t let him call you by name anymore. Only equals can call each other by name. Force him to refer to you as “Mistress” or “Goddess.” When you ask him a yes or no question, make him respond with “Yes, Mam” or “No, Mam.” This will help condition him.

Other examples of being mean to your husband are to take his free time away by giving him chores, his money and possessions away by demanding he be frugal, and his sex life away by withdrawing sex. Start small, but be firm. You want him to get used to submitting, and you used to dominating. For example, make him make the bed every morning from now on instead of you. Even something as inconsequential as making the bed will have a submissive effect on him and it will be something to build on later. For example, when you feel the time is right you can add to his responsibilities, “Honey, since you’re doing such a great job making the bed everyday, I’m going to have you clean the entire bedroom every morning from now on too.”

Take you time being mean. It’s more important that you are comfortable with the process than the actual process. You are training yourself to be the beautiful and terrifying wife who’s husband begs to please you. Be strict with the rules you make. If your husband doesn’t take out the trash let him know your displeasure. Punish him with real consequences if he messes up.

Punishment may be many different things depending on your style. You can be passive aggressive by withdrawing sex. You can be very aggressive and spank him. You can force him to do something perverted like eating his own semen. Just make sure you communicate with him at the time of his infracture that you are displeased with him, and that there will be consequences.

Being Nice

The beauty of being mean to your husband isn’t in its direct benefits such as stated above, but in how it redefines being nice. Things that used to be normal for him are now special treats. He used to be able to have sex with you whenever he wanted, but because you’ve withdrawn sex from him, you’ve made it a rare event - something to behold. By being constantly mean to you husband, you’ll lower his standard of what is considered nice.

Use this concept once you’ve established a baseline of meanness, which will probably take few weeks. Once being mean has become the norm you can start. For example, let him know a reward will follow his future good behavior. You can say, “I’ve decided today that if you’re a good boy all week and do all your chores, I’ll give you a blowjob at the end of the week.” A blowjob only a few weeks ago was not worth doing an entire week of chores for, but because you’re mean now, a blowjob’s value has greatly increased. Being “nice” like this you give your husband an incentive to follow your rules – further deepening your control.

Try to think of your husband as an ape you’re training. It’s all about sticks and carrots. Reward him for good behavior, punish him for bad, and most importantly, remind him that he’s lessor to you.

Your Pleasure First

Once you’ve mastered being mean to him, you can progress to a new lesson. Train him to subordinate his pleasure to yours. His new reason for being will be solely to please his mistress. Let him know this. Things like the new car he was planning on buying make off limits. Nights out with his friends, no – he has to stay in and clean. Fishing? Nope, he’s got to do laundry.

Not only will this degrade him, but it will give you more free time. Take advantage of this and enjoy it! Go to the pool and relax, go out with your friends at night, go on dates with other men. You won’t have to worry about the kids anymore because your husband is watching them. And because you’ve forbidden him from buying that big ticket item he’s been saving for, go shopping! There’s plenty of money now, right? This the time to be a hotwife – go for it.

If you don’t do these things by deciding you’d rather be nice to him, it will be to your determent. It’s up to you to fill the void of your husband’s powerlessness. If you only force him not to buy the car, but then don’t spend the freed money, you’re sending him an incomplete message. Spend the car money on yourself, and let him know, “I, your wife, don’t care about your pleasure because mine is more important.” Make sure you fill the void, you don’t want all your hard work wasted.

Changing the definition of sex

This lesson is especially important. Definitely no more blowjobs. The blowjob is the epitome of giving him pleasure. Don’t even have sexual intercourse with him. Intercourse equates both of your pleasures, not exactly the message you want to send him. If he insists on sex, have him fuck you with your favorite dildo. Make sure to mention how much bigger it is than his penis and how much you enjoy having a “real cock” in you. If you absolutely must have sex with him a good idea may be to make him wear a “long lasting” or numbing condom. This will greatly reduce his pleasure. The best thing you can turn sex into is him eating you out, period. You may want to squat on his face and force him to eat your pussy, or lay on your back and make him beg to eat you. Either way, he should soon learn what you mean when you say, “Let’s have sex.”

Conditions

From here you can take things further. A good way to do this is with conditions. A condition is basically a trade. For example, “Okay wimp, I’ll let you cum tonight, but you have to cum in your hand and eat it afterwards,” or “Alright Lexie [for Alex], I’m going to be nice tonight and let you fuck me, but afterwards you’re going to have to eat your cum from my pussy.” By using conditions, you can bring him to higher levels of submission voluntarily. This is more than worth the momentary pleasure you trade him.

Once you’ve gotten your hubby to do a degrading act for the first time with a condition, the subsequent times become much easier. Let’s say it had been a month since you let you husband stick his dick in you. Then one night you offered him the chance to fuck you as long as you got to fuck him afterwards. He was so desperate to get his dick wet, he jumped at the chance. That night you give him a good cum, then put on your strap on dildo and stuck it in his ass for the first time. You’ve now made it much easier to fuck him in the ass for a 2nd time by breaking that initial barrier. You probably won’t need to bargain with him again, just force him. Using a condition at every major cuckold milestone is recommended. For example when you bring another man into the relationship. This is a big step for him, so you’ll have to coax him along with rewards.

Don’t use conditions forever. They are just a tool to use in the beginning stages of taming your husband. After a while you will have amassed so much power, there will be no need for them. You can just make him do whatever you want. Once you’ve reached this point using a condition will actually make you look weaker.

Congratulations!

Sometime around this point you will have reached a milestone in which you can say you’ve officially turned your husband into your slave. Usually it occurs after you’ve forced your husband to do something so depraved that he has no self respect anymore. It may be the night you take his anal virginity, the night you come home from a bar and make him eat another man’s cum from your pussy, or the time you force him to suck another man’s larger penis. All the hard work you have done training yourself and your husband culminates here. For afterwards the change in your relationship will be so apparent that both of you will never be able to go back. He will be stricken with terrible shame and embarrassment, and you will have finally tasted the ecstasy of pure power.

Also remember that with great power comes responsibility. You are now responsible for another human being. You will have to make many more decisions because he has deferred authority to you, his dominatrix. You have changed his life purpose from the pursuit of happiness to the pursuit of your happiness; you must give him every opportunity to fulfill this new mission and he will be grateful to serve you.

Now relax, you’ve made it! Enjoy the lifestyle perks that cuckolding has to offer. Live a life of leisure. Have you husband take care of all the mundane things. Make him do all sorts of nasty and perverted things. Sleep with other men at will and bring them home to play. Whatever you choose to do with your cuckold, enjoy the luxury of having the choice…

I am very interested in living this lifestyle. Are you?

David :: May.11.2007 :: Advice, Craigslist, Cuckolds, Hot Wives, Personals :: 1 Comment »

In just the past few days, we’ve received a few emails from prospective “dates” asking us if we would be interested in meeting younger men. The short answer is of course. We don’t mind meeting you, so long as you’re of legal age.

That said, it’s rare that we meet men under the age of thirty. And it’s not because of the age difference. It’s usually because your level of maturity just isn’t there. It’s important that you be able to handle this situation properly. That includes being private and discreet about it. It means not sending us endless emails asking to “hook up” again. It means not calling at all hours. It means you have to be respectful and polite, particularly when we first meet.

Plus, we have so little in common now with you guys in your early twenties. We’d like to at least be able to have a conversation with you, before and after you jump in the sack with my wife. But if we don’t share a lot of the same kinds of life experiences, then you’re really going to have to prove it in the bedroom so to speak.

And speaking of the bedroom, a lot of younger men just haven’t had the kind of sexual experience and background that we’re looking for. A lot of you are still learning, and while you might have the stamina to please a woman–you don’t quite have a grasp yet of all the psychological nuance necessary for these kinds of encounters to work. Or…you just might not know what you’re doing at all yet. And that’s fine–but we’re not always in a position where we can help you learn that stuff. Most of the time, we’re looking for someone who can come in and know how to please her, while knowing how to get inside my head at the same time. Plus, we’d like to get comfortable enough with you so that I don’t always have to be in the room…and I know Allie would like that too.

So, younger men, all is not lost. We do like hearing from you, and we’d love to meet you. Here are a few tips (and you might take a few cues from this posting also):

1. Keep your emails bright, polite and intelligent. We get lots of mail from mature guys. Find a way to distinguish yourself–without coming across as arrogant or idiotic. A little proper punctuation goes a long way.
2. Send a photo you would send to your mom. Not of your cock. Period. Cock shots, with no face pics, go right to the trash without looking twice. A good rule of thumb ratio is 3 clothed, unblurred pics to each nude photo (if any).
3. Email once, and leave it alone. If we want to meet you, we will write back. We will contact you to let you know either way. I know there are a lot of couples out there that don’t write back, and you feel like you have to send and resend your email. That just hurts. It never helps. That’s why it’s so important to put your best face forward on the very first email.
4. Be a gentleman. To a fault. I know you’ve got an urge to get all dominant, turn on your “bull routine” and try to “put me in my place,” yadda, yadda, yadda. Save it for when my wife’s feet are in the air, and believe me, I’ll be well on my way into submissive cuckold space. Until then, mind your manners.
5. Remember to send a thank you email the next day. Compliment her and thank me. We’ll notice. You won’t get invited back otherwise.
6. Dress to impress.
7. Do your homework. Try to learn as much as you can about what we’re looking for. Ask smart questions.
8. Remember that this is our fantasy too. This isn’t all about you. This is a 3-way street: you, her and I. This will all go a lot smoother if you keep this in mind.

That’s it. Sounds like job interviewing tips, doesn’t it? Well, that’s a pretty good metaphor. We all want this encounter to be fun, sexy and positive. Plus, we might be interested in a long-term arrangement.  I think if you keep these points in mind, you’ll have success. If not with us, then with another couple.

Good luck!

–David

David :: May.09.2007 :: Advice, Cuckolds, Hot Wives :: 3 Comments »

The dominant Hotwife Allie is back and she has a new toy this time around. Check out this new cartoon and others in the Hotwife Allie pinup archive.

David :: May.02.2007 :: Allie, Cartoons, Pinups :: 1 Comment »

Nerve columnist Kai Ma has filed a great story on the intricacies of cuckolding and hotwives and it’s a great read. She spotlights one cuckold / hotwife couple in particular that really seems to be having a lot of fun with the lifestyle. Here’s a taste of the column:

The idea of any husband wanting to watch his wife have sex with another man goes against the grain of marriage, masculinity, even patriarchy, in a radical way. Before meeting Kurt, I’d never known a man who liked the idea of another man messing around with his wife. But Kurt, who enjoys submitting to the bull’s larger penis and his wife’s high sex drive, says his sexual passivity is more a role than the reality. He can personify the beta male role, even eroticize it, because he knows he’s not inherently inferior to other men.

As an alpha male in life, Kurt’s bedside compliance also serves as a refuge from his competitive, high-strung personality. “This is the one area in life where I can choose to be submissive,” he explains. “I always have to win and be the best at everything. No one can do better than I can. If another guy eats her out better than I do, well, he’s just raised the bar, but I can do better. But a bigger dick I can’t complete with. Something about that turns me on.”

It’s a great column and gives further insight into what cuckold relationships and fetish play are really like.  For me, and I think the end of the story confirms this a little, cuckolding is really just another toy in the toy box that comes out to play.  We play with it a lot, but it’s not the only toy in the toy box.  Plus, cuckold relationships really just confirm, as the story says, “No one is better for each other that we are.”

David :: May.02.2007 :: Cuckolds :: 4 Comments »