At a new and extremely exciting hotwife forum, a thoughtful hotwife named Liz has written a spectacular post about some reasons they enjoy the hotwife lifestyle, and some observations she’s made about why on earth some husbands and wives would want to engage in this kind of play. Here’s her post:
It is nice to know that there are couples that share our predilictions and fetishes. We have found a fun and interesting activity that we feel enhances our relationship. I believe that when a couple can find something they both enjoy it is important to share that with each other. Too few couples let their true feelings be known to each other.
For people here who have never tried it and are curious or fantasize about it, even if it never comes to pass I suggest that you both enjoy it for what it is. Having sex with other people is not for everyone as my husband often advises, but if it is for you it is fun, harmless and rewarding for both.
I have been asked by others what I feel when I am having sex with another man in front of my husband. That is a complex question actually. The feeling varies with the situation and the person involved, but mainly it is one of my desire to show my husband that I can be very good and please not just him but all men of varies tastes and desires.
In reality my husband and I enjoy different scenarios. I prefer to have him in bed with my other partner. My biggest thrill is to have two hard men available for me in whatever position I am in. I love to be on my belly/side with one leg pulled up to my chest and have one man entering me from behind and the other kneeling in front. The experience of having two cocks at one time is for the the ultimate thrill and satisfaction.
I also like to have the men exchange postions often especially when they are in me. The contrast of having two totally different cocks in and out of my pussy is the biggest thrill imaginable. It is especially good if the men are different sized. When one pulls out and the other enters it “confuses” my pussy in a very erotic way, then my pussy adjusts to the new cock and no sooner then it gets used to it, they exchange once again.
The culmination of the experience is when the first man comes in me. I love the feeling of it flowing into me and whether it is my imagination or not – I feel each and every spurt. When the second man enters me after the first one comes ( this is usually my husband) then the sensation is enhanced even more. I can feel him better in me. It is like the cum provides addtional feeling not unlike a massage oil does when a masseuse applied it to your muscles.
For my husband – he prefers to watch me completely from beginning to end. I tend to put on a little show for him as I do this. How I do this varies with the mood and the other man. I prefer to take charge of the sex. That means I like to be on the top giving the appearance that I am in control. I will use my motions to satisfy the man. I always enjoy making sure that my husband is part of it. I will motion to him to lean forward and give me a brief kiss – this is highly erotic kissing my husband while another mans cock is inside me – especially true when the man comes in me while we are kissing.
As I fuck the man I like to turn to him and purse my lips or blow him a kiss or mouth words to him like “I love you”. This again is highly erotic.
I also enjoy sometimes ignoring him – treating him as if he is not there watching me, yet still exaggerating my motions a little as he watches. I like to do this if I am fucking the man in the missionary style. It is very intimate and lends itself to a little sense of privacy between the other man and me.
I typically am not one for the “wild” type of sex; fast, furious, or whatever. I like slow lovemaking style sex with every man I am with. There are of course exceptions to prove the rule. I should let my husband share those with the group as he seems to enjoy putting his perspective into the stories. He recalls them much better than I do.
There have been many times the we have done the sleazy type of sex or games. One old friend of his thought I was a prostitute. He and Alex shared my “fee”. Later when we told him we were married he was even more thrilled. He didn’t even want his money back
We have no serious disagreements about styles or even what kind of men we choose. Most of the men are one evening or one time sex flings. Provided you are cautious and use good judgement – these are safe and fun and preferred. My husband has allowed me to fuck a few of his long time friends. This again is safe provided you are careful and make sure he understands the nature of the sex.
The only complaint I have is that Alex barely lets me rest after I have sex. He wants me immediately. That is his stongest fetish. I perfer to bask in the afterglow for a few minutes and enjoy the after-sensations. He does let allow me this every now and then but taking the time to just stare at me until he cannot stand waiting any longer.
It is usually easy for me to find other lovers. A lot of white guys have an Asian fetish. I suppose men like a touch of the exotic.
The main feeling I get when I have sex in front of him is pride. Proud that my husband thinks I am so sexy, proud that he is secure enough to allow this without jealousy, and proud that I can satisfy many men of varied tastes. I suspect that he is also proud of himself that I always prefer him to others and that no matter how many men I have sex with, I always think that he is the only true lover I have ever had.