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I feel compelled to write a little on the topic of respect in the hotwife lifestyle. I’m observing a growing trend in the lifestyle of a lack of respect on the part of single men for the husbands and wives, and the special bond they share.
Very often, we receive e-mail and instant messages from men that are eager to meet Allie. And by meet Allie, I mean have sex with Allie. Often these messages offer very little in the way of compliments or conversation, not to even mention seduction. It’s like some men out there just assume that she’s going to jump into bed with them on the appearance of a “let’s fuck” e-mail in our inbox.
Listen up, single men…
You will not get very far in this lifestyle if you don’t act courteous, kind and respectful when communicating (e-mail or otherwise) with hotwife couples. Please remember that it’s just as important to compliment the husband on his incredibly hot wife. And remember that ALL wives out there are incredibly hot–and you better tell their husband that, if you’re going to get anywhere with them.
Husbands play an enormously important part in this lifestyle. Very often, we’re the gatekeepers. Nine times out of ten, I’d guess we’re the ones screening the e-mails, setting the dates, planning the parties and coordinating the schedules. Beyond that though, we want to share our wives because we want them to be admired and wanted by other men. If you don’t make us feel like we’re the luckiest men on earth and that our wives are the sexiest women you’ve ever seen, then why should we feel like sharing our wives with you? Because you e-mailed us a grainy close-up photo of your cock and nothing else?
You’re going to have to let us know how much you want her, how pretty she is, and how damn lucky we must feel to have such a hot wife. If not, and believe me when I say this, you’re e-mail will be deleted before I get to your photo attachment, I don’t care how big your dick is.
Wait…there’s more. I really love the guys out there that when we do ask for another picture to go with their unsolicited cock photo–they say, “that’s the only photo I have.” You mean to tell me that the only photo of yourself you have access to is one of your penis? Is that the photo that you email to your mom or send around to your friends during the holidays? That’s the best…I love the “that’s-the-only-photo-I-have-scanned” guys. You mean when you plugged in your scanner, the first photo of yourself you reached for was of your dick? Nice!
Think of it this way, and be honest: If you were to approach us, or any couple for that matter, in a bar or nightclub, would you walk over to us and just pull your dick out without any introduction?
No? Then why on earth is it the first thing you send in an email?
But, let’s get back to respect. The “bull” mentality that’s becoming more and more pervasive in this lifestyle has to change. There’s a lot of arrogance there and single men entering this lifestyle need to remember that the couple is calling 99.9% of the shots.
I’m not saying there’s not a place for the dominant nature of a single male (”bull”) in hotwife couple sexual encounters. It’s the arrogance prior to and during an initial meeting that I have a problem with.
In general swinger circles, I know a lot of single men get frustrated because a lot of couples are only looking for other couples. Very often, single swinger men are insulted and ignored. I mean, how many swinger personal ads start with “NO SINGLE MEN.” Or “E-MAILS FROM SINGLE MEN WILL BE DELETED.” I imagine it must be enough to drive serious single men crazy and wonder why they’re looking in the first place.
Remember in the hotwife realm, single men are usually what we’re looking for. But you must approach couples from a friendly, or even seductive, standpoint. Don’t act like you’re God’s gift to the lifestyle (because that’s not likely).
So remember: we’re hoping to meet you–we want the single male thing to work out–so don’t blow it by coming across as arrogant or pushy.
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Posted by David | Aug. 10, 2005 | Posted in Advice, Cuckolds, Hot Wives | 9 Comments »
well said
I agree how can anyone be disrespectfull when it comes to allie or any woman. It’s stupid to be disrespectfull.
David, your rant is right on target.
We’ve been in this lifestyle for quite a while now, and the lack of common sense on the part of most men out there continues to amaze me. Your rant should be Required Reading item number 1 for any man who wants to enjoy a hotwife.
Keep up the good work - we enjoy your blog!
That was very informative for me. The looking for guys… and the willingness to meet them. For someone who is just watching/reading about your lifestyle (mainly through this is like-blogs) this was a very informative post.
I tend to not be suprised that you get a bunch of horny people sending disrespectful messages. I work with kids. When you work with kids you see what people are like when they do not see the big picture… often it is only a very narrow point of view. With the kids it is not necessarily bad, as it is expected from kids. But I know that many people are in total fantasy land when they email you, Allie, or any other porn/fantasy type person an email… They have no real expectations, I imagine. Some, I imagine wish and hope but don’t really take anything they send in an email that seriously.
Now here is the part that blows my mind: Apparently, in your lifestyle, you are fielding these emails with expectations of meeting real people for real encounters. This is amazing to me… eye-opening that it appears to really happen for you.
I am extremely jealous of your lifestyle. I admire you in a lot of ways too. But I would not expect this post to stop most of that I expect are many disrespectful emails because I don’t think most people respect your real lifestyle or see it from the same point of view that you do.
I did take notes from this post though… and with my eyes, at least, slightly more open, I hope not to be disrespectful to this lifestyle.
I get a lot of the cock pics. They generally are idiots. You said it well. And by the way your wife is HOT.
Thank you David! Again, you guys are right on the money. Seacoast02@yahoo.com aka Bill
Perfectly phrased!
Photog
yes, your remarks were right on the money, I really don’t understand some people nowdays
Could have written that myself. Well said!
Joe